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[marriedinameonly]

Been together nearly 50yrs. It's not always been a bed of roses but the phrase 'marry in haste, repent at leisure is so true. Short LTR before marrying partner who had MH Issues. Got through that reasonably Ok. He went into the wrong career and had to leave not long after starting. Supported him all through that and somehow we've reached retirement age together. Now he's turned to writing - all day, every day. He's got a poor memory so when an idea comes to him he has to write it down - even in the loo, when doing his teeth - any time. I can't talk to him in case he's 'thinking' I'm house bound now and have no social life so it can be very lonely. I've tried dropping hints but he gaslights me saying he does talk to me - but he's not here in his head, or he does that gentle patronising sigh and puts on a listening face but I can tell he's not engaging with what I'm saying. I get one 'peck' a day and 2/3 cuddles if I'm lucky. Otherwise I'm a very poor housewife (due to mobility issues).
Just waned to see what the hive think. Don't tell me to LTB as I couldn't face the disruption.

You poor thing. You're probably about my age and it's hard to get used to your relationship changing as your physical/mental abilities deteriorate. You gradually realise that you are now a carer or being cared for, more than you are a wife. Is he deteriorating mentally? Is that why he is writing everything down?

Is there anything you can do to help the mobility issues? Or aids or support of any sort?

Mobility aids only help with not falling over. Otherwise I crawl about like, in his words, a mortally wounded snail.

I have no advice to give but yes it sounds hard for you and lonely. I'm sorry

Whilst I have a certain amount of sympathy for you, you do come across as quite passive. You've just allowed yourself to drift along...... for 50 years!
Grow a backbone and take some responsibility and control of your life. Your husbands job isn't to entertain you. When you say you're housebound, do you really mean you're unable to leave the house or do you just mean you would need support to so, a wheelchair? Join a group specifically for people with your condition. I'm assuming you recieve some sort of benefit to help with your mobility....use it. Don't you have any friends? If not could that be because you don't go anywhere or make an effort. Passive/complacent again.
If you intend to stay married put aside a specific time where you suggest do something together. If you don't really 'do' stuff, start simple with a movie night. Couples bond over shared experiences which could be something as simple as watching Strictly together. Is there a hobby you might like to try that your husband might enjoy too, or would he enjoy 'supporting' you. Play to his strengths, so ask him for ideas, to help you research something.
It sounds very much like you're bored, and dare I say boring. You can change that! Start off with a haircut or new outfit. Join a support group, spread your wings....1 years time you could be managing the fundraising, giving talks, going to the theatre, or even a bottomless lunch...and most importantly laughing!