Romanticizing my crazy 20s? Sensible and 35!!

[Cocolocobaby]

Pulled my life around at about 28 ! Stopped the partying and drinking etc. Met the most amazing man and I got focused on my carer . Got rid of all my debts. Got married and we bought a house and have two babies . I laugh so much and feel so safe . I have savings now . I am so much nicer .

I had huge mental health struggles from being a teen but that is mostly gone now .

So….
Today aged 35 , I am laid In bed thinking of how crazy life was . The list of boyfriends ( often many at a time ) . The crazy clothes ( the body I once had!)
Drinking, partying . No ties. The freedom . The utter craziness of going out with some cash and a pack of cigarettes and dancing the weekend away. During this time I was alone, always skint and failing at work I was unreliable and hated myself. But looking back it is just crazy I lived like that. I’m pleased I did in some ways !!!

I am so happy now so why am I suddenly romanticizing this period. Is it normal ?

I think we all romanticise our youth as we look back with rose tinted glasses. We know it’s the end of an era and even if we’re happy now we have responsibilities w jobs and kids that we just didn’t have back in the day!
btw I’m in my 50s and would love to go back to my 30s!!

Think it's perfectly normal. I am a decade ahead of you with my eldest already in secondary school but I still often feel the same way. I was very wild and promiscuous in my early/mid-20s and for a long time I was quite ashamed of it. Nowadays I look back more fondly and I'm glad I had those experiences, it was a cracking time hanging out with friends, falling out of night clubs in the early hours, replacing meals with cigarettes and having an amazing figure without making much effort, think you needed that diet to look good in those early 2000s low-cut jeans!

@EatYourFive you made me laugh ! I am pleased I had those experiences . I think the shame is lifting and I can look back now and see I was just enjoying my 20s and appreciate my craziness and that is nice

I have 2 under 2 so it’s been very intense with liking after the babies and I feel I have been pregnant a lot.

So I just need to relax and enjoy my 30s !! I can have the odd glass of wine etc and still dance around the kitchen .

I think it's just nostalgia. I look back fondly on my 20s and yet I was a mum for most of them, there is an innocence of youth however you live those years and I think it's quite normal to romanticise them, even if life is more comfortable now.

I had a hugely partying twenties, no drugs and only two boyfriends but I worked in an amazing place. It was very much cocktails after work or out for dinner and drinks at lunchtime in the city ai studied and then lived in. I used to party in London every other weekend, one of my friends had a flat in Clapham and another lived in Notting Hill. I had grown up rurally so it was a huge change. I had grown up with the girls that lived in London, anyone that wanted to achieve anything had to leave. One worked for a famous fashion designer and we went to some amazing parties, slamming tequila with Bollinger, flirting with twatty city boys, Camden Market with a hangover all spring to mind.

This was in the 1990’s and probably the best memory for me is dancing to Sancho Panza at Notting Hill carnival.

My nostalgia has been driven by the fact that one of those girls died last year, she was only 55 and left two still quite young school age children because she had them later in life.

I now live in a Market town on the edge of the Peak District. My weekend was spent having brunch with DH, DS and his girlfriend on Saturday and then going out with my hiking group on Sunday and watching a horror film in the evening.