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Original poster

More of a WWYD - DH Covid, share a bed?

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SundayCovid · 02/04/2023 23:07

Hi all, more a WWYD.

DH found out he has Covid today (tested ahead of seeing a vulnerable relative). I am negative as are 2x DC. DH has very mild symptoms (under the weather) - and a VERY red positive line (so probably not day 1 or 2).

We've given him a wide berth, in the hopes of avoiding Covid (ten days to holiday abroad).

But I'm bored and tired, and just want to sleep in my own bed (alternative is a foldout bed in the study).

WWYD?

Not unreasonable - Sleep in the same bed. If I'm going to get it, I am going to get it.

Unreasonable - camp out in the study.

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Mumof3teenagers · 02/04/2023 23:09

If you have holidays in 10 days, camp out and try to avoid getting it. Try to keep distance from DH, you don’t know how sick any of ye will get if ye catch it and it could ruin the holiday.
That’s just my opinion.

Original poster
SundayCovid · 02/04/2023 23:09

Also - if I'm going to get it, I might as well get it ASAP, so I've got time to un-get-it ahead of holiday.

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Original poster
SundayCovid · 02/04/2023 23:10

Mumof3teenagers · 02/04/2023 23:09

If you have holidays in 10 days, camp out and try to avoid getting it. Try to keep distance from DH, you don’t know how sick any of ye will get if ye catch it and it could ruin the holiday.
That’s just my opinion.

This is probably the right thing to do. But as I noted in my afterthought - I might as well get it quickly, if I'm going to - rather than holding out until the last day he's contagious and the four of us getting it sequentially for a month....

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TomatoesAndPeaches · 02/04/2023 23:11

But you may not get a positive for over a week… What then…

whitebreadjamsandwich · 02/04/2023 23:11

Why did he test? And why would you test anytime between now and your holiday? If you get a 'sniffle', it's a sniffle....no need to be testing

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SundayCovid · 02/04/2023 23:13

whitebreadjamsandwich · 02/04/2023 23:11

Why did he test? And why would you test anytime between now and your holiday? If you get a 'sniffle', it's a sniffle....no need to be testing

As my OP said, vulnerable relative visit today (in their late 70's + having chemotherapy) so we are ultra careful as what's a sniffle to us, is not a sniffle to them.

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dementedpixie · 02/04/2023 23:13

When dh had it I never caught it and then when I had it he never caught it. Still shared the bed and living spaces

Vodkaislethal · 02/04/2023 23:13

Both my husband and i had it twice, we just continued as normal. We are fully vaccinated though and it was no biggie.

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SundayCovid · 02/04/2023 23:14

dementedpixie · 02/04/2023 23:13

When dh had it I never caught it and then when I had it he never caught it. Still shared the bed and living spaces

DH and I have both had it twice before, the first time separately (didn't catch it from each other, and didn't feel too bad), the second time (in the big Omichron phase) - we both got it, and it was actually fairly grim.

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HairyMcHairyFace · 02/04/2023 23:15

When my husband had covid I banished myself to the sofa bed for a week. It was far from ideal but neither me nor our children caught it. It won't be comfortable for you but better to lessen your chance of getting ill right before a holiday in my opinion.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 02/04/2023 23:15

I would just crack on as normal. If you’re gonna get it you’re probably gonna get it. I wouldn’t test and wouldn’t let it effect me going on holiday unless I was literally too ill with it to get out of bed, but it’s unlikely you will be that unwell with it.

Getabloominmoveon · 02/04/2023 23:17

I tested positive on Friday, felt rough then and yesterday, feeling much better today.DH slept in spare room for 2 nights but returned to our bed tonight. We have holidays on Friday.

NameChangingIsMySuperPower · 02/04/2023 23:18

When DH had it I slept in bed with him for a few hours the first night. But he was a disgusting sweaty thing. So I went and slept on the sofa for 6 nights and stayed well away from him in the day time. Night 7 he was feeling and looking normal, I was still negative, and was really missing my bed so went back to it! 4 days later I started feeling ill and yep.. I had it!!

This was before the vaccine though.

2chocolateoranges · 02/04/2023 23:20

I would sleep separately especially if you are going on holiday soon When I had it dh slept on the sofa for 10 nights until i tested negative. I was quite poorly with it and his mum was going through chemo at the time so it was best we tried to limit our time together. Him and ds remained negative but dd got it, but thankfully was ok.

Schmutter · 02/04/2023 23:22

I wouldn’t care. I’d just share the bed as normal.

FanSpamTastic · 02/04/2023 23:27

When I caught Covid - I had been away from home and tested positive while away - so I quarantined in our bedroom as it had a bathroom and DH slept in the spare room. He didn't get it.

When Dh got Covid, we had been in the same bed before he tested positive. So it seemed pointless quarantining. I didn't catch it from him.

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SundayCovid · 02/04/2023 23:35

FanSpamTastic · 02/04/2023 23:27

When I caught Covid - I had been away from home and tested positive while away - so I quarantined in our bedroom as it had a bathroom and DH slept in the spare room. He didn't get it.

When Dh got Covid, we had been in the same bed before he tested positive. So it seemed pointless quarantining. I didn't catch it from him.

This is the thing - DH's line was immediate and dark, he's probably been positive for a few days, and we've been behaving as normal until today.

I guess the thing that worries me is both of us getting it, and passing it on to DCs - one of whom has never had it. And it'd be a real pain to have sick kids over the Easter break (not to mention that sense of dread you get when your child is ill).

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FanSpamTastic · 03/04/2023 00:23

I think if it was just me - I wouldn't bother quarantining as chances are you have already been exposed to it.

But with the kids in the mix too - then I'd probably quarantine from him. If you haven't already got it then seems silly to risk them getting it via you.

YerAWizardHarry · 03/04/2023 00:37

When I was positive DH and I slept in the same (double) bed, used the same bathroom and acted as normal (kissing etc ) and he still didn’t catch it

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