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To find these pains pleasurable? (Not sex-related!)

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TokyoStories · 01/04/2023 14:48

I assume I’m not the only person in the world to experience this but I never come across anyone talking about it.

Ever since I was a child and I experienced my first loose tooth I realised I enjoyed the pain of pushing it hard against my gum. I did it constantly until it bled. This triggered life-long problems with jaw clenching, teeth grinding and TMD. It’s like I’m addicted to it and I can’t wait to do it again even though I know it’s so bad and I end up with severe facial pain and spasms (which isn’t pleasurable).

So…

Grinding and clenching my jaw feels wonderful

Poking at my gums is bliss (I’ve avoided doing this since I was a teen as I know how very bad it is but I still think about it)

Pressing hard on bruises is heavenly

Leg cramps are amazing

The moments after extreme menstrual cramps (endometriosis) finish feel euphoric.

I have no interest in BDSM or any sort of sex-pain so I don’t think it’s ‘masochism’. It just genuinely feels so nice. I know IABU to my body, but who else feels like this? I can’t be the only one.

YABU = that’s madness
YANBU = I know what you mean

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Beantag · 01/04/2023 14:51

For me it's rubbing or picking at the skin around my nails, I don't do it anymore as I used to get a bit carried away. It's painful but feels so so so good.

evilharpy · 01/04/2023 14:56

I got a couple of ear piercings a few weeks ago. They are healing nicely but when I push on one of them it's ever so slightly painful and it feels AMAZING. I know I need to leave it alone but it's very hard to stop.

PollyAmour · 01/04/2023 14:56

I know you say that it's not sexual, but deriving pleasure from pain is masochistic and deemed a perversion. You'll have a queue of BDSM fans clamouring to tell their stories of genital mutilation if you're not careful Grin

I guess at least it's your own pain you enjoy and not that of others, because that would be even more disturbing.

ChangedmynameagainforChristmas · 01/04/2023 15:00

I love having my eyebrows plucked. The popping feeling when one comes out is very nice.

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TokyoStories · 01/04/2023 15:03

PollyAmour · 01/04/2023 14:56

I know you say that it's not sexual, but deriving pleasure from pain is masochistic and deemed a perversion. You'll have a queue of BDSM fans clamouring to tell their stories of genital mutilation if you're not careful Grin

I guess at least it's your own pain you enjoy and not that of others, because that would be even more disturbing.

Not one for the dating profile then Grin

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Itsvalentino · 01/04/2023 15:06

Yes to the loose tooth thing, as a child I used to push n pull at any loose teeth because of how nice if felt, painful but nice.

I chew the inside of my lips, I hold a chunk of skin until it goes numb and then bite it off, this results in a wonderfully painful ulcer 😳🫢

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TokyoStories · 01/04/2023 15:09

Itsvalentino · 01/04/2023 15:06

Yes to the loose tooth thing, as a child I used to push n pull at any loose teeth because of how nice if felt, painful but nice.

I chew the inside of my lips, I hold a chunk of skin until it goes numb and then bite it off, this results in a wonderfully painful ulcer 😳🫢

YES!! I KNEW I couldn’t be the only one with the loose tooth love 🥰

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CrickCabana · 01/04/2023 15:13

Explosive diarrhoea after excruciating cramping is an amazing feeling

Burning eczema too

SpringIntoChaos · 01/04/2023 15:13

I'm always poking my gums...the pain is pleasurable to me too OP. It's not sexual...more 'I'm alive!' 🤷‍♀️

Jacketspudtunamayo · 01/04/2023 15:14

When I have an ulcer on my tongue I love biting it. If that counts for anything 😅

LlamaFace19 · 01/04/2023 15:15

I love the tingly sensation of when your leg/arm goes dead. I'm weird.

Gwenhwyfar · 01/04/2023 15:20

You're so lucky. Toothache is the worst thing ever for me.

heidbuttsupper · 01/04/2023 15:21

I LOVE pressing bruises

Triantha · 01/04/2023 15:22

I also really enjoy the sensation of biting resistance on my teeth, although not to the point of pain usually.

Have you tried chewable jewelry? That's designed to be resistant but not damaging to your mouth :)

CrickCabana · 01/04/2023 15:23

Triantha · 01/04/2023 15:22

I also really enjoy the sensation of biting resistance on my teeth, although not to the point of pain usually.

Have you tried chewable jewelry? That's designed to be resistant but not damaging to your mouth :)

This is making my mouth water, I think I need something to chew 😂

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TokyoStories · 01/04/2023 15:25

Triantha · 01/04/2023 15:22

I also really enjoy the sensation of biting resistance on my teeth, although not to the point of pain usually.

Have you tried chewable jewelry? That's designed to be resistant but not damaging to your mouth :)

I had no idea this was a thing. I think I might order some. Sometimes I fantasise about biting down hard on a pencil and chewing it to pieces. Maybe I was meant to be a dog.

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Triantha · 01/04/2023 15:27

@TokyoStories you can get chewable pen/pencil toppers too! I had some that looked like chess pieces to calm me down when I worked a stressful job. All the chewable stuff is silicone so you can boil it now and then to sterilize and wash it in hot water with soap in the meantime.

Okunevo · 01/04/2023 15:28

I find it impossible to say my pain level out of 10 as 1/10 starts when it is pain (10/10 I'd guess is disassociating, blacking out, throwing up, loss of bladder control?) and I find it hard to decide if it is pain or not. Am I bothered enough about wanting a sensation to stop to go to the supermarket for paracetamol? Rarely.

Triantha · 01/04/2023 15:30

@Okunevo oh yeah that's a recognized issue with those 1-10 pain scales. A lot of people are like "well I'm not actively dying so it's a 4" when according to the definition next to each number they should be a 7 at least. It's usually to do with how much it stops you doing other things by being distracting/physically disabling.

Doormatnomore · 01/04/2023 15:32

I find scratching really nice. Like if you get a mosquito bite and can really go to town. I have to watch because obviously you can damage the skin but I love the feeling of scratching. I googled it once and the only result I could find dismissively said I didn’t enjoy scratching I enjoyed the sensation when it stopped. But I’ve checked, by having a really long scratch and it was definitely the scratching not the stopping.

RitzyGlitzy · 01/04/2023 15:35

Yes to chewing, I like chewing and biting certain types of plastic or fabric until there's slight pain in my gums.

The pain of wiggling a hangnail is also really pleasant.

Okunevo · 01/04/2023 15:35

@Triantha I haven't been given a definition before, just asked for a number 😐. I can't always decide if I'm in any pain or not, I mean I can feel it but do I care? If I couldn't be bothered driving two minutes for paracetamol then I say nil.

LuckyDipForTheEuro · 01/04/2023 15:37

Nothing beats a good sneeze.

BlüeöysterCunt · 01/04/2023 15:37

Jacketspudtunamayo · 01/04/2023 15:14

When I have an ulcer on my tongue I love biting it. If that counts for anything 😅

I pull them off with tweezers 😬

Liz1tummypain · 01/04/2023 15:41

TokyoStories · 01/04/2023 15:09

YES!! I KNEW I couldn’t be the only one with the loose tooth love 🥰

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Yes, the tooth pain thing is true for me too.