Screaming like banshees

[LilySue76]

Hi,
Am I over reacting?Live in a small block of flats,with a small garden,just a patch of green with flowers,few trees.Got a gate,only 6 flats,all nice people.Next door 4 houses,they got their own gardens.2 girls from one of those,are 11 years old.They are constantly in our garden,coming in the building screaming,running around,littering etc..also they taken over the garden.Constantly in here,and screaming like someone is torturing them..all the time.The kids from our block are all well behaved,around same age.Their parents tought them not to make such a racket,they are usually playing in the parks etc..
These 2girls'mother is an addict,caused enough problems already,a very unpleasant person.The girls have a dad who comes and takes them out as much as he can.Am I an an idiot for wanting some peace in my own home,being able to open my windows,or just sit in my own garden without those two whos high pitched screaming is disturbing everyone?Fed up cleaning up after them,fed up listening to them and generally just them busting through our gate constantly and having no respect?They have been told by my neighbours already as well,to stop the screams..it is hurting your ears,believe me..trying to be reasonable here,but after last summer and half of this winter,I am getting triggered..just escaped DV 2 years ago,this should be my safe haven with my 14 year old..and feel rubbish that i can not cope with this kind of noise..😞

Totally reasonable to want peace in your own home.

At the same time, with an addict for a mother I can understand why they’re totally dysregulated.

Can you look into reporting to social services or getting to know them?

At the same time they aren’t your responsibility and I can understand you not wanting any involvement after your own history. What could you do to preserve your peace? Is moving an option?

just escaped DV 2 years ago, this should be my safe haven

And yet you don’t have any sympathy for two very young girls living with an alcoholic mother who clearly just leaves them to raise themselves?

If OP is still recovering they won’t be in a space to have spare empathy/care/energy for others yet. That’s a very understandable phase of healing after abuse.

Perhaps. But clearly these young girls would rather be anywhere else than at home with their alcoholic mother.
OP mentions the other children are usually brought to the park by their parents so
aren’t around to make as much noise, that’s hardly an option for these girls.

If they argument is OP doesn’t give a shit about them because of her past abuse then all it’s really doing is validating that they don’t give a shit about OP due to their current abuse.

Who said they are not raised??Excuse me??Their mother is constantly causong trouble around here,causing fights between neighbours,saying its nothing wrong with her behaviour either when she deals drugs,all the help she is given to her,but its just easier to not cate about anything.She is raising them in a way,whereby the se poor kids behaving same way as their mother.The whole neighbourhood supported them up until she turned nasty on everyone and people had enough of drama.So you are telling me i have to live like this and never open my windows,never have time to relax or my son to study as that mother is just ignorant?No,sorry,but after a while all this is too much.Please do not tell me i have to feel sorry for them all do not flip it on me.Try to be here for a few days to understand what is the situation.And I am one,who does not chose substances over my kid,although i went through abuse for more than 15 years.I said already,despite all the help and support,nothing changes.And yes,I also have a right to enjoy my home I am paying for,and working for.

Can you put a lock on the gate?

If there are only 6 properties on your development why not get a lick fitted and residents can know the number?
Make sure you get one whereby the number can be changed if necessary.

Lock!!

I really feel for you OP. We have had similar where we live. One particular kid who was being “raised” by a violent, trouble-making mother caused a lot of trouble. We had a ball kicked constantly up our side wall to the point where I didn’t want to come home from work as I knew he’d be there and sometimes with a little group who were all kicking the ball. What I will say is that situations like this one and the one you describe don’t last forever. The problem kid and his mother moved away and last I heard he was in prison (he’s now in his twenties). You are entitled to enjoy your home without people who couldn’t care less making it a bloody misery for you. Hang in there. They may move on. I find people like that tend to. They piss off so many people then move elsewhere to start the cycle over again.