to feel bullied at work?

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there’s 2 levels of staff at work - managers and caseworkers.

Management are nitpicking and pulling me up on things they aren’t pulling up on others. Eg I wore boots with a heel and was asked to go home and get footwear changed. Meanwhile others are allowed to wear their heeled boots. It’s not against guidance.

I asked for help with a complaint from a customer about a colleague (accessing an acquaintance’s record without business need) and was angrily told they’re too busy and to not disturb them. But if that complaint was against me, I know they’d go through with a disciplinary.

as managers aren’t taking me seriously and are very critical of me, the caseworkers now treat me like I’m useless too. I’ve had 2 people snap at me recently over things that have nothing to do with me. Again, managers aren’t taking my concerns seriously.

aibu to feel like my cards are marked? I feel in any situation I’m automatically the problem and feel a bit isolated.

On the face of it, YANBU. But you don't sound to be sticking up for yourself either.

However, when they told you to go home to change your footwear why did you do it? I'd have flat out refused unless my other colleagues were told to do it too.

If someone spoke to me like shit in the office, I'd have said "I don't appreciate your tone there. Please don't speak to me like that"

Are you in a union?

with the boots thing, the female manager said to me I need to be careful as I’m attractive and need to consider the clients we work with (idk what this means - we help benefit claimants). This felt sexist. I did state I’m not happy with this but then the manager said the boss would send me home too.

the main catalyst to all this is that I was close to the previous management team and the new management team wanted to make their mark. I probably am an easy target to make an example of as I just accept things and don’t make a fuss. I don’t know how to stand up for myself without coming across as problematic as they already don’t like me.

And there's the rub.....you're attractive!! Women don't like attractive girls.....sadly you'll have to get used to it, pick your battles and dress down for work if you want an easy life. Smart classy mature clothing on an attractive woman is the bomb...... she'll hate it! She's obviously jealous and knows the men look at you or she wouldn't have sent you home like a child. Beat her at her own game, don't give her an inch to complain. Unfortunately my Daughter, who is extremely attractive works with nurses and they are some of the most spiteful women I've ever met. (I've also worked with nurses for 22 years, I was attractive but had a husband and 2 small children so not much of a threat) she on the other hand is 26 gorgeous with no husband or children and for some reason is a target for mistreatment by them. Not the care assistans but the nurses, my point? Seems to be the "qualified" women who like to be spiteful bitches to attractive girls. Don't let it grind you down honey she's not worth it.