Dd was bullied by two girls, one in particular at her previous primary school. She has moved to a different school because the old school had no effective strategies for the bullying and the child was making dd's life a misery.
After leaving school we focused on settling dd in to her new class and this started to get better. She gained confidence and started to trust again. Two months after we left the bully's mother contacted me several times by text, WhatsApp, etc. I didn't open the messages but heard from another parent at the old school that the girl (bully) was missing dd and wanted to see her. At one point dd was close friends with this girl but things changed for the worse with the bullying. I've always maintained no contact with the mother, I couldn't see how it would be good for dd.
Fast forward to now, dd saw the girl in the park. My sister had taken the dcs out for me, dc played with this girl who had said to dd she wanted to meet up again. The girl's mother wanted to take a photo of the girls together but my sister said no. Dd is very trusting and a very young 10. She has asked me to arrange a meet up with this girl but I really feel our problems will start all over again. AIBU to say no on the grounds of what happened before?