My dad is very ill, when he goes it will be a 'release'.
He gave me his car a few weeks ago. Mum agreed, but I suggested it went to her but no it was to be mine. We don't immediately need a car but it would be useful, known history, low mileage and we'd sell the high mileage thing we had to buy in a hurry last year.
My unemployed brother who has been low contact due to mental health problems has arrived, full of new meds. Has diverted my dad from hospice care to at home, extracted £700 from my mum for a week's car hire and train fare. Googled deprivation of assets, had my mum looking out the will at 11pm on his arrival, then switched to I need a car to help the parents. I have transferred the car to my mum.
He's now disappearing for four days, returning to pick up the car on Monday & 'help' again.
I just don't trust my brother, he was a selfish kid and has been no different in his adult life.
I'd looked up care packages and spoken to friends about end of life local resources, it just seems very asset orientated for my brother. He snapped at me when I asked about the care pathways and support in place before discharge.
I think we are going to play out childhood dynamics and we're in our 50s !!!
What's worked /hasn't for your siblings?