AIBU to refuse to work with someone?

[teomama]

AIBU to refuse to work with someone? The said lady has a very demeaning, abrasive manner. Nearly every comment she makes is a complaint, and she literally flies off the handle for the smallest of things. Yesterday I warned her a very urgent task came up for me, and I will not be able to attend one of her meetings, but my manager will dial in instead. She flipped, swore and wrote a complaint to a C-level exec. I've been with the company for 6 years and have a clean record, literally zero conflicts with any employee, we've managed to keep it civil and friendly even at the hardest of times. What I hate the most is that I come in to my children, and bring this energy with me - beaten down, negative and tired. Obvs I've raised with my manager, but are there any other steps I could take?

Is she more senior than you? If not, have you tried to raise the issue with her directly? What has your manager said?

What does working with her actually involve?

What was your manager's response when you raised the issue?

You could put in a formal grievance, I guess. I don't think you can just refuse to work with her if you need to liaise with her to do your job.

For the time being, make sure that you document everything carefully in case you need to submit evidence.

A blunt refusal to work with someone will reflect just as badly on you really. You need to pursue the various channels open to you to formally address that her behaviour is not acceptable.

Riase it with your Manager first, take it from there.

Yanbu to feel very stressed by her.
Is she like this with everyone?does she have a bad aura?
There is nothing wrong with asking but not knowing what your work set up is it's hard to answer,I mean,do you intend to move to another office or department?or ask for her to be moved?you don't say how this refusing to work with her would be facilitated.
On a personal level,put a white light around yourself before you go to work,particularly around your solar plexus.
Carry a piece of hematite,it will reflect back to the person sending you negativity.
Before going home take a few deep breaths,four in four out,think of all she's done to upset you and let it go,remind yourself you are not taking her home with you,she's done,then close her out,think of your happiest thoughts and relax and smile,then go but your kids.😀💐🌈
Also,listen to intuition it will always see you right and ask for the situation to be resolved in your head and it will be.

This person's behaviour is really unacceptable and your manager needs to address this.

If you are not satisfied with the outcome then you need to raise a grievance.

If you just refuse then your manager could then discipline you. So follow process.

Hug your kids!😀

I have refused in the past and I'm so glad I did. This is ridiculous behaviour.