To think it's great when adults tantrum when they don't get their own way or indeed tantrum for no seeming reason at all?

[Coolidge]

Like when you get home and they've drunk half a bottle of spirits already and they're just LIVID with you for a very tenuous reason - or indeed any near variation of this situation?

It's the surprise element of it all that's most thrilling, is if not?

It** not?

Have you been on the spirits?

Usually I look on this as the adult being under immense pressure in some way and it’s taking it’s toll on their mental health, so whereas it’s childish and irritating, I try to sympathise.

Very unfortunately, no!!

So you live with an angry alcoholic?

Ok fair enough - very mature reasonable response

I would describe a situation where an adult regularly has 'tantrums' - which appeared to be alcohol-fuelled rages - unpredictably and targeted at someone else as abuse, and I hope that you're ok and safe.

Not any more thank goodness

Hardly a tantrum, it’s called raging alcoholism.

Yes thank you just to be clear - my situation luckily isn't current just trying to let off steam and inject an element of humour - if we can ..

I think that's a mature and wise way to think about it if, say, you're talking about a one-off incident you have to negotiate professionally (e.g. this is the behaviour of a client or service user, perhaps a vulnerable one). I think if this is a regular occurrence with a partner then sympathy is less important than getting out of this abusive and damaging cycle.

Agreed but can be done sober as well