Is this gaslighting ?

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While living at home - I was 17 - my mum came into my bedroom absolutely hammered drunk, told me off for having a messy bedroom, started hitting me then called my dad when I put my hands out to restrain her. This all happened on my bedroom. My dad took one look at it all - I was sober btw - and decided I must leave too - he told me to move out - some days later when we'd 'reconciled' my mum said that she'd been frightened of me at the time . "But I'm not now". Because I was naive and 17 I felt a sense of shame. Is this gaslighting ?

Was this the only time something like that happened? That’s really weird.
I would say it’s abuse and with abuse there is always some rationalisation, I.e. excuse, but I say it’s not gaslighting

Don’t put her off post posting please, I’m happy to keep providing validation.

I'm happy to provide validation but I think some proper therapy would be better than relying on strangers to validate bits and pieces.

That is emotional abuse through neglect. I find it hard to believe that a parent can get away with behaving like that without the authorities taking some action, after all, at the time you were 17 so you were still a teen but not an adult and therefore under the age of consent.

I suspect both her actions and his, have caused a complete breakdown of your relationship. After an experience like that I definatly would not expect you to trust those two again.

I don't blame you for going NC.

So when they need your help in the future, you can tell them to take a long walk off a short pier, and mean it!

Thank you - I went back to the house because I had no other option but I absolutely didn't want to, at the time, believe me !!! I was around 4 months off my 18th birthday

It really does, especially if other people either didn’t know, or thought you were exaggerating, or just weren’t interested.