To complain to the school

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I get a bus home at school kick out time. Normally fine, I stick my headphones in and read my book. Most kids on it go to a school i work at so I always get a seat because while they are loud and a bit sweary they are actually decent enough kids.

There are 3 kids who get on from a neighbouring school. The 2 boys are pains in the arse. Constant jumping around, loud, rude and frankly just horrible obnoxious little boys. In the last few weeks I've told them off for spitting at an older lady, pushing a toddler and hitting an older lady with a bag. Now 2 of these 3 things were accidental but caused by them behaving stupidly. I've emailed the school each time.

Today, they were swinging around and hit a lady again. Then were in the seats behind me and as the bus jerked one fell back landing on my head with his elbow. Luckily he didn't hit the 4 year old stt on his mum's knee beside me.

I bollocked him, full on told him I was fed up and disgusted by his actions and his lack of consideration, if he was my child he would be grounded until summer and if he didn't sit his backside down I'd have him thrown off the bus. He did apologize but his little arse mate was commenting how i couldn't do anything and wasn't allowed to tell him off.

So I rang the school and pointed out the kids behaviour and that as i could identify them as pupils they had a responsibility to respond to the complaint. A deputy head is calling back on Thursday as they are being ofsteded today and tomorrow. I'm absolutely furious and the year 9 boys from my school actually came to check I was ok because they've never seen me so cross. (works going to be fun when they tell the whole school about miss loosing her shit).

So I'm sitting here with a mild concussion (probable, headache, mild nausea and intermittent dizziness, work in the medical office as the primary first aider so see lots of concussions!) and H is saying I have over reacted by ringing the school (and following up with an email).

AIBU?

You haven't over-reacted. They deserved a telling off and you were right to ring their school. I do feel a bit sorry for their school, taking your phone call on the eve of Ofsted. Hopefully it will be taken seriously by the end of the week. Our school get calls from the public about pupils and we always respond.

The school needs to know how they're behaving and you're effectively helping to socialise these boys so you're perfectly justified.

I don't blame you. If it isn't nipped in the bud, it will only get worse.

I would have done exactly what you did! The trouble with such behaviour from these boys is that it will never improve if it is allowed to go unchecked. Well done for speaking up!

You’ve done the right thing.

Well done you! Kids need a ‘village’ of adults to help bring them up- if everyone turns a blind eye to poor behaviour they’ll grow into badly behaved adults too. Takes courage - thank you!

You'll be lucky if they do anything. Walking against the flow of kids from out comp before Xmas, at least 10 walked into me (I was on the inside of the pavement against walls, hedges etc) head teacher sent her pa to talk to me, didn't contact me, or respond to my letter....I have up.
however if it happens again I will contact the governors

I doubt you have a concussion, but right to report none the less. Our local school don't give a toss however if not on school property

Good for you. When I worked at a London primary and commuted by bus, some boys from a local secondary were always a pain on the bus. The day they threw coins around and hit loads of bus passengers, I emailed the headteacher and gave their approx age, descriptions and their names (heard them saying them to each other). Two days later at work I got an envelope full of grovelling apology letters. Never had any trouble from the bus after that.

You haven't over reacted. You have brought it to their attention before and nothing was done. Their failure to conduct themselves properly had caused you actual bodily harm.

YANBU, you've done the right thing and reported the students to the school. They have not behaved safely and responsibly on the bus. Poor behaviour on public transport can result in a student losing their free oyster travel. These instances are likely to have been recorded on the bus camera footage too.

https://tfl.gov.uk/fares/free-and-discounted-travel/rules-of-travel-for-under-18s

Nice work! Totally the right thing to have done.

I am slightly sceptical about the ‘concussion’ but am pleased you have complained about the boys.

I am a former Head
I called a school last year after seeing bullying and shocking behaviour at a train station and then on the train.
They took it pretty seriously (and I didnt say I was an ex HT)

Tbh, I'd be worried about what goes on at the school you work at if you see ' a lot of concussions'

@Talapia, we are a very sporty school so kids playing rugby means we get fairly regular concussions. Add in the kids who do out of school activities (the most common cause) such as rugby and cricket and that's what happens. Only 1 has been from a fight but thanks for the fake concern.

@AllTheDifference be as sceptical as you please, but headache, dizziness and nausea after a head injury usually means concussion. Just waiting a callback from 111 as it's gotten worse.

Others, thanks for the comments.

At uni at a pub roof a student grabbed my shoe and threw it of the roof very nearly into the road below. I had to hobble out downstairs.

Being dropped like that is very serious. I would say the whole year should be told not to do that

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