NC because I intend to show my husband this thread!
Will give some background here: my husband and I have been together almost 10 years. He is very frugal (he would say sensible) and I am more of the philosophy that money is to help us enjoy life.
We don't often fight but when we do it's often about very small things related to money. I will also say we have plenty of money (no mortgage, good pensions etc). But even though we have plenty he watches every penny. I am very grateful for him managing the finances but it can also get irritating!
So: tonight I donated to charity on an ongoing basis. Normally he takes care of it, gift aid, etc. but I thought why not, it's a small enough amount and a good cause (£20 a month). I can cancel the direct debit whenever. Well he flipped out and told me it was wrong of me to do it without talking to him first. We have a rule of anything over £100 we tell the other but don't ask for permission. Big stuff we discuss together before doing anything.
So - AIBU or is he being unreasonable?
YABU - me
YANBU - him