Seeing nieces and nephews if you don't see your Siblings?

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Following on from the Siblings thread.

Does anyone manage to have a relationship with their neices and nephews if they don't see their siblings. How does it work?

Following! I'm hoping to still see my niece and nephew following a catastrophic relationship breakdown with my partner's sister nearly a year ago. We haven't seen the kids since and I really miss them.
I hope you find a resolution, its so difficult. Families eh?!

No I don’t speak to my sister and she isn’t allowed to see my children. I don’t see my nephew either.

I doubt this is possible really

Nope sorry. My DS will never know his cousins or aunt/uncle and it's so sad (not my decision by the way).

I don’t think it’s possible generally.

I still have contact with my nephew, but that’s because he came to live with us (originally with his Mum and sister, but when she went back to my brother he refused).

I don’t have contact with the rest of my nieces and nephews and my siblings don’t have any contact with mine (bar my sister occasionally crossing paths with DD2 at a sporting event).

I think it could only work if the nieces and nephews were adults.

My parents occasionally bring them to see me. I send gifts at Christmas, Easter and birthdays but mine don't receive anything in return and I never receive a thank you but i do it because dns are not to blame. It's not my choice not to see them, my siblings are selfish and when I became disabled and unable to help them they suddenly disappeared. I dont have the relationship I once had with them (I used to have them stay, take them on holidays and days out).

Perhaps not as kids but maybe when they get older if they haven't been brainwashed or told a load of lies.

I should have added - my nephew was 15 when it all kicked off so old enough to have an opinion on the whole sorry saga.

What do you call yours, I call mine the Niblings and their littleuns are the
Niblets

From a different perspective perhaps. My brother went NC with me after I disclosed CSA. He sends £10 in a card to my two kids. They met once last year by accident. He didn't speak to them. They're somewhat mystified!

I do with my neices.
They are 16 and 19 and haven't seen their dad, (my much older brother) since they were 4 and 7.
I haven't had a relationship with him since I was a teenager myself, he is and always has been a violent and unpleasant man.
Their mother left him but made contact with me as she had met and liked me when we were much younger, knew I was estranged from my brother and she wanted to see if the girls could still have an extended family. We lived not far from them and I used to babysit and take them out and have had quite a normal aunt/neice relationship with them both. They like my children and always come over for birthdays and they came on holiday with us for a few years when they were in secondary school.

I doubt he would care if he did know that I see them, he never really had a problem with me, I think I was too much younger than him for him to bother with me. I just distanced myself because I disliked him. He moved halfway across the world though, so it doesn't really matter.

basically, don't.

It is so unfair to mess children around and expect them to navigate these minefields.

If you dont see a parent, then you dont see the children, what possible benefit would it be to the children to be with someone who their parents dont like?

I agree.

No the sibling is not welcome in my home so it doesn't work out right now. I am sorry for the DC as not their fault but my family is my priority. One day I hope I will have the opportunity to explain it all to them.

It is possible if the person you fell out with isn't a complete twat and can put your differences aside for the sake of the kids.

My sister and I had a fall out once, that lasted for a year at least, but we could still message about each others kids, but that was it. I.e., I would like to take my ds and dn to a panto, can I pick them up on X date at X time.

I also agree with @Nimbostratus100

Although @Eastofe has a completely different situation as the dc don't see their dad either.

I was NC with my brother but had contact with his children when my Mum was alive. Have no contact with any of them now.

I see my eldest niece despite being NC with her mother however she is an adult.
I don't have a relationship with my youngest nieces/her sisters.

The fall out between DH and his brother was mainly over him abandoning DN. DN is brilliant and fortunately her mother facilitates contact with PILs and us. (Now 15, this happened 10 years ago)

Complicating factor is the two other DNs he has since had... so DH will tolerate seeing him this summer so that our DD can meet their other cousins.

Sadly not. It’s just not possible to have a meaningful relationship with minor children if you don’t have a relationship with their parents (unless, eg, you get to see them regularly at the grandparents’ home or something like that). It’s sad, because it isn’t the children’s fault and they miss out on (hopefully) positive relationships with uncles, aunts and cousins. But that’s the reality of it, especially if they don’t live close enough to have opportunities to see them. The children could reach out independently as adults if they wanted to, but that’s not likely to happen either, as there is no pre-existing bond for them to want to rekindle or build upon and chances are they’ll accept their own parents’ side of the story.