I am late thirties, dh is late forties. I have two dc from a previous relationship and we have a baby dd together. Dh has no other kids.
My elder two were really easy babies, dd however not so. She's not great at sleeping and eating and has had a few health issues. We are struggling. Dh isn't a natural with babies and has let me take the load which while I was on maternity I expected and was happy to do. However we've reached a point now where baby is one and he still doesn't do a great deal. I am definitely at least half to blame for this because I have always done everything and have my own routines and ways of doing things that work (mostly). However now I'm working again I'm struggling. We both are. Life before dd was very different, lots of free time as elder dc go to their dad EOW. Suddenly we never get a break. No family to help with dd.
We are bickering and shattered. We never get any quality time together. Im resentful and he thinks I nag too much. I also worry that at his age he's thinking this was a mistake and certainly not the life he'd envisaged with a baby. Although dd is very very loved and wanted, life just feels really hard at the moment and I worry for our marriage. We love each other but the daily grind appears to be making us row and not like each other much.
Any advice?