Does anyone else’s other half do this?

[Wowzawow]

Basically, when DP and I are disagreeing about something/having a row, he makes comments such as “You just want to moan” or “You’re just in a mood” or “you take yourself too seriously”. This morning I was airing my opinion on a disagreement that we were having, and he started talking over me and I told him to stop because I was speaking, and the response was “Do you ever stop speaking?”

These comments are draining me and I just feel like the second he makes a comment like that it’s clear he’s not really taking in my point of view at all, he thinks I “just want to moan” etc and my opinion is automatically invalidated.

I’ll admit that I am quite a sensitive person, so perhaps I’m being sensitive and this is just one of those things?

you feel invalidated because your feeling are being invalidated…

No, you are correct. It is invalidating your feelings and opinions and it's said with the intention that you won't bring up any issues for fear of being seen as always moaning. He then gets a quiet life and never has to face up to anything he is doing.

Sometimes I will tell my DH I don't need solutions, I just want to rant but he wouldn't tell me I just like to moan or anything like that.

He's horrible. I despise this sort of men.

Yep I get this , I also get "Oh here we go again " and " You always fucking do this "

To the point I can no longer voice my opinion !

This is the way a lot of men are raised. Women 'nag' apparently !

He’s training you to stop raising issues he can’t be bothered to discuss. Don’t be silenced cos he can’t be arsed.

He's doing these things to shut you down and control the conversation. Whoever controls the conversations controls the relationship. Does he do this for disagreements about any certain topics or all areas of your life together?

He sounds awful.

It’s the sort of shit morons say when they don’t have a valid response or argument to what they’re challenged with. A cop out, basically.

So just say, yeah I am fucking moaning again because you're being a prick again.

Stop being a prick and ill stop moaning

So you're in a relationship with someone who has no respect for your opinions and is unable to communicate in an adult manner.

Sounds like a deal-breaker to me.