For wanting my partner to lose weight

[sparklymams]

My partner has recently started putting on some weight - I love him very much and definitely do fancy the pants off of him and will love him no matter his size however, for 2 reasons I want him to lose weight;

1, on our holiday last year he hated all the pics he was in because he hated how big he looked - he's bigger than that now - he isn't a slim/gym man never has been - used to do boxing so he's quite big guy with his arms and shoulders

2, probably very wrong of me to say, but I just don't want him to end up like his dad and brother, both of them are 20st +, very skinny frames and legs but huge "beer bellies" and I'm worried that I might start to find him less attractive if he starts to get like them.

I've tried so many things, since I do all the cooking I've made us healthier meals/smaller portions but he'll still be hungry and get some crisps/biscuits (healthy versions of these snacks) - he just eats a lot of food not necessarily unhealthy and drinks beer quite often

I've tried to get us to go on walks together - we have a baby so getting to the gym together is quite hard.

He's just having none of it and says 'if I get like my brother than it's meant to be that way'!!?🤯

Pleaseee AIBU!? And is there anything I can do to encourage him to make better changes??

YANBU. Obesity is a real problem and a huge risk to health.

If you do all the cooking I'd suggest you make the healthy meals you already are but maybe bigger portions. Bit more vegs and meat and maybe cut the snacks.

It's hard. I'm the overweight one in my relationship and I've cut out drink and snacks and I'm seeing very slow results. I have a good dinner though, decent portion. Otherwise about now (8pm) I'd want a snack.

Can't make him do it though. Got to be him.

It's hard. I know I'd start to feel very, very resentful if I were you. I'd resent the fact that he's so cavalier about his health which could massively impact your family, and I'd be resentful that he doesn't care enough about how you feel about him. My husband and I care very much what the other thinks of our bodies, attractiveness, etc. We both appreciate that the other cares how they look. To be clear, I am not talking about having perfect bodies, not by any stretch, but a healthy weight for our body type and staying as fit as we can.

My father-in-law has a huge gut, he looks 20 months pregnant. I find it repulsive, honestly.