I'm in a bit of a birthday funk. Every year I make sure my husband and the children feel special on their birthday, cards, gifts, decorations, flowers, special breakfasts, lunch and dinners, homemade cakes, parties, days out, you get the gist. Most years I'm forgotten. This year dh is "trying to be nice" he hasn't got me any cards yet, my present may or may not turn up in time, he's invited people over Friday, Saturday and Sunday as a surprise, only he's told me, presumably because he wants me to sort the house and food out while he looks like a doting husband. Quite frankly I'd rather get a takeaway, a bottle of wine and watch a film or go out somewhere nice. I tried discussing this with him but as usual he just gets defensive and tells me I'm ungrateful. So AIBU I don't feel like I've got much to be grateful for in this situation.