Please share your experiences of sleeping separately

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For context....

My DP has recently moved in. His snoring is ridiculously loud. I've tried ear plugs, white noise, the lot. I'm getting a terrible night's sleep and being woking up multiple times a night and with a pretty hectic day to day, this isn't ideal.

I enjoy sleeping on my own. I don't particularly find any comfort in sleeping next to someone. Our relationship is strong and we're affectionate in other ways.

My property is large enough to accommodate sleeping separately. We've spoken about it and DP is willing (albeit with sad undertones). So, I'd be grateful if any posters would be willing to share their stories on sleeping separately - positives or negatives!

Side note: GIF is me at 4am

Me and DH have had separate bedrooms for the past 11 years. We were almost at breaking point before then. I am a super light sleeper with chronic illnesses & a sleep disorder. He snores and flails around. We both were keeping each other awake constantly and were just miserable. We get on so much better with seperate bedrooms and it hasn’t ruined the intimacy side of things. Can’t recommend it enough.

Has he seen his GP about the snoring? There was another thread yesterday about snoring. I did sleep in another room some nights, tried multiple ear plugs and was at the end my tether sometimes. It took years, but I finally convinced DH to see the GP. He now has a CPAP machine which is absolutely silent, he has lost weight and wakes up refreshed. I wish I'd pushed him for testing sooner.

I adore my DH but we have separate bedrooms each with a super king size bed. DH was recovering from surgery last summer so we slept separately because it was warm and he was restless, and we’ve never looked back. We both sleep so well and we’re both less grumpy in the morning. No plans at all to return to sharing a bed.

Thanks for your insight - appreciated. I'm similarly a light sleeper, which doesn't help the situation either

The receptionist advised DP to do an online consult. The GP came back and said that he should lose weight. He is chronically tired, so I do think there's more at play and he should push for further investigation. It's tough, isn't it? It's not their fault but absolutely infuriating to be woken up multiple times every night

I slept separately from dp for the first year or so we were together. I'm planning to have my own bedroom when we move in together. I mean, why not? Do what makes life better for you. I'm the snorer and cougher in this case, and I hate to wake others. I sleep really deeply on my own and I have never forgotten what it felt like to sleep really deeply, night after night, when my incredibly loud snorer dh was no longer here.

I don't accept sad puppy dog eyes being made to me about some decision I've made about my own bloody life and health. I do hear that men seem to regard sleeping smooshed up against their partner as some kind of human right. Well, I'm not a fucking amenity. If I want to sleep in a bed on my own, I will.

I feel rather strongly about this.

I'm single but if I chose not to be I'd be very reluctant to sacrifice having a bed to myself!

I don't get it why it is seen as such an odd thing. I lived with my ex and did share. When we parted ways people I talked to about it always assumed I'd miss having someone next to me during the night.. hell no, I love having my own room again!

Married 27 years, separate bedrooms for about 5, maybe. Absolute game changer. I’m so much more rested and when I have a period of wakefulness I can do sit-ups til I feel tired again so I’m less flabby too.