I am going to try not to drip feed - so may be a long post.
will bullet point some facts
daughter is a long term patient on a gastro ward.
she is unable to eat a normal amount of food and is primarily reliant on IV nutrition and also has 2 other feeding tubes.
she is allowed to eat for comfort small amounts of food and we encourage this however she is very adverse.
we have the same kitchen staff on the ward daily and feeding tubes are obvious.
we order daughter a certain meal every day as she sometimes will eat small pieces of it and other times she can’t.
last week we could see the kitchen staff getting annoyed when they were picking up her food tray.
yesterday I had to leave for a short time, when I arrived back my daughter was very upset and crying saying she was going to get in trouble. The kitchen lady had come in with food A full plate which I had not actually ordered. She had told daughter that she would leave it on the table but she didn’t eat it last time so she better eat it all this time !!
AIBU that this was not her place at all ??