AIBU to think that wasting someone's time is one of the biggest insults?

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One frustrated and hormonal pregnant mumma over here. Work full time, already have one DS, aged 6. Live with my DP who works full time as well as some evenings. Our free time is so limited so really precious. I was supposed to meet a friend for lunch today at 12, have been waiting for her to confirm her address all morning so I can pick her up. It's now 12:55 and I think it's safe to say she isn't lunching with me. It's my one rare day off from work and it's totally frustrating to waste my morning waiting around for someone when there's 100 other things I could be doing. I also have another flaky friend like this, will make plans, will wait around for her to never receive a message back until the day after with some lame excuse. Plans change, this I don't mind at all. But AIBU to find it totally inexcusable to not update the person you have prearranged the plans with? Grrrrr.

Yes!!! I’m livid when this happens. I’ve learnt not to have expectations of these people. It happens with a work colleague - we’ll say let’s do that call at 10am and then she’s not ready. I end up having other plans now knowing she’ll always be late.

It's a flagrant disrespect of you time. I hate it when people do this!!

Rude, rude, rude.

Easy. Don’t plan lunch with that friend again. YANBU

Yes, this does my head in. I had lots of “mum” friends during Covid, and they were all lovely: but some of them were just really flakey: in the end, I would only meet up with these people when we were in a group. I found the ones who worked very part time or were SAHM were the worst for this (or dilly dallying about agreeing a date) whereas the mums who worked full time or thereabouts tended to come back with a yes/no to an invite and stick to it.

post Covid, I’ve kind of only stayed in touch with the mums who made as much effort as I did. This is not to say I liked the other mums any less at all… it’s just that being busy, it’s easier to arrange things with people who make an equal effort

@TheAudie too true. I have a small circle of friends which I will go out with. Today is just another reminder on why I have a small circle of friends. Time is precious, and there's no where near enough of it (unfortunately!). I have 2 hours now until I need to pick up DS from school. Some time to get some housework done and il nip to the shops, but really could have used the time today so much more wisely!

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So rude! They would not be on my friends list any more.