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AIBU to ask my ex to get back together

9 replies

Applepea1 · 20/03/2023 12:04

Here's the thing, I did ask and he told me he's just started seeing someone else but it's only been a few weeks. So I asked him again anyway.
We were together 11 years and have a child. I was severely depressed and asked him to leave. A year and a half on, we are both in much better places and I think I was wrong to end it.
Now he has to make a decision. I feel terrible. I really want to try again but should I just let him go? We won't really know if it'll work until we try it.

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Aquamarine1029 · 20/03/2023 12:07

There's a lot to unpack here, but ultimately, if he says no, you need to accept it and move forward. You then need to commit to building a positive co-parenting relationship.

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BrainOnFire · 20/03/2023 12:08

YANBU to ask. But if he says no you need to accept it and move on.

AnneLovesGilbert · 20/03/2023 12:17

He’s said no. He’s moved on, which he’s allowed to do, and you’re being incredibly disrespectful for pursuing it.

Why would he trust you won’t kick him out again?

He’s made his decision.

Deathbyfluffy · 20/03/2023 12:17

You need to wait and see what he says - it's unfair to expect him to end another relationship because you feel you're now in a better place.
By all means try, but if he says no respect his choice.

Cas112 · 20/03/2023 12:28

You should leave him alone

What if you get depression again? Are you going to go through this whole rigmarole again and keep messing with his life?

MrsDoylesDoily · 20/03/2023 12:40

I did ask and he told me he's just started seeing someone else

He said NO right there ^^

MrsDoylesDoily · 20/03/2023 12:41

I don't understand why some people are saying 'If he says no'.

He's already said no. If the answer was yes, he would've said he'll end the new relationship Confused

ChangedmynameagainforChristmas · 20/03/2023 12:41

OP with respect.. if he did nothing wrong why would he risk everything for a red flag?

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