MIL called me and DH yuppies?

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I feel like it's supposed to be derogatory based on what I read online. I am 30 so I think this term is not used often nowadays.

And the thing is I don't feel like a yuppie! We earn above national average but around median for London (DH earns 65k, I earn 45k), we have a mortgage on a z3 flat.

why are you offended?

It's not an insult unless you want to be offended.

Tell MIL that phrase died out in 1992. She sounds like hard work if she’s using 30 year old phrases to make digs at you.

Ha ha, that's funny. Everyone successful in the 80s where either Yuppies, Neauvs or Dinkys. You need a power perm, big gold earrings and shoulders pads to do it properly op. She's humble bragging. My dm does this all the time (see the irony 🤣).

How is it a boast?
I didnt say it was. I was asking if it was.

It's a neutral observation.

And if you think that what you earn as a couple is normal for 30 year olds in London your absolutely kidding yourselves, and must live in the tiniest of bubbles with people you only meet professionally. You are so far from average that it's ridiculous.

You're going to be super popular with your in laws if you're going to continue lecturing them like this.

By all means be financially ambitious for yourselves, but have a bit of tact around those who live their lives differently, possibly because they haven't had your opportunities. Taking about money is still not polite conversation in some circles, and your in-laws might not enjoy it.

It looks like you are:

Young ✔
Urban ✔
Professional ✔

un point à la belle-mère

Tell MIL that phrase died out in 1992. She sounds like hard work if she’s using 30 year old phrases to make digs at you
Wher does it imply it's a dig at OP?

Honestly as you get older you will find yourself occasionally using old cultural reference points that tbe next generation hsvent a clue what you mean. I've said things to teenagers things like 'oh you sound like a stuck record' when they have been repeatedly mosningbabout the same thing and they've looked at me blankly.
I cant see any personal slight.
To be honest I might drop it in conversation with ds1 and gf to see what reaction I get!!!
I can bet my life they will not be offended!

I'd forgotten that word! It was "big" in the 80's. Take no notice of her, it's just a silly term for young professionals.

You end up helping family financially if they stumble. Cos the alternative is seeing them in trouble. DH has paid for his SIL's council tax in the past.

MIL has had help since her 20s from her dad to buy her house, her flights, regular payments etc. This doesn't extend to her children for the most part. The state has helped (both in UK and in SIL's new country) but how long can this last. At some point, the money will run out right..

I mean 10 years ago, we wouldn't have thought working people would be at food banks but according to the news, it's getting worringly common. My take from that is that it is necessary to stay ahead of the curve or you wouldn't survive in a capitalist society with very low growth rates (in the Blair years, the growth rates meant that at least some of it could be spent on the poor).