to have beleived that inviting a child to sleepover does not equate to them moving in for the weekend?

[OrmIrian]

Because it appears my friends do. To cut a long story short we agreed to our friends DD (step DD on one side) staying over with our DD on Saturday night so they could go to a 40th b'day party in Bristol. No problem there. DS#1 then asked if in that their DS (step DS on the other side) could stay Friday night (to do Nintendo and lego-related activities). Again, no problem. But this is where the problem starts. On both occasions nothing was heard from the parents at all as to when they were expecting DCs back or when they would come and fetch. Which meant that we had to ring and ask them whether perhaps they wanted their children back. And they ended up staying most of the day which made things a bit tricky for us.

Now I know I should have been more organised and sorted this before the event but I just assumed that 11am ish would be a reasonable time to go home. Not 3 or 4 in the afternoon. And the second time we rang some jokey comment was made along the lines of 'you can't wait to get rid of them can you?'. Now call me fussy, but surely 'overnight' means just that, not all day.

Must learn to be more specific in my invitations...

hmm, what strange parents, u would think it would be up to THEM to make arragments over what time they would be picking their children up, cant believe u actually had to ring them

I sympathise - we regularly have a weekend sleepover and it amazes me that the other parents never seem to ring to see if their little darlings are ok.

Not to mention the fact that they eat you out of house and home!

Sleepovers....shudder.

Yes, just collect him when he's sixteen and through his exams why don't you.

Ahhh yes the food! Nothing left in the fridge, cupboard or fruit bowl!

To be fair these friends have offered to have all 3 of mine overnight but it hasn't happened yet as their lives are a bit manic atm. So I'm not holding my breath....

i think i'd deliver mine to them next friday night. and not turn up 'til late on saturday. they might get the hint then....

How old are they? I would always go round my friends houses "for one night" and end up staying a week, and vice versa - it was just expected we would ring our parents when we were done, rather than them sort anything out - unless I was under about 10 ish.

I have the opposite problem. One mum never gives us our dd back. She gets irritated if I say I'm picking her up sharp (which would be before 12pm).

I always try to make these arrangements in advance. Ideas of sleepovers vary wildly.

11, ladyofwaffle. The boy was getting a bit antsy because he had to be somewhere at a specific time to meet his dad. He did try to ring but couldn't get hold of anyone..was beginning to get quite upset.