It’s Mother’s Day … My 16 year old beautiful moon child sen son is in care

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Just that really

Have fought with everything I have to get my boy help . Social workers are an overworked , well intentioned waste of time .

Have mp involved

Haven't held his hand or touched his cheek for almost 4 years .. just phone calls.

Don’t want to drip feed .. I trusted the powers that be he would get help and he would come home “ in a few weeks love , once we have accessed Cahms for him “ … this was may 2019

He has since been excluded from 3 specialist schools , Cahms are useless
His specialist foster placement has introduced him to criminals and taught him to break the law.
My child has spent nights in police custody since he was 14 .

its an endless battle to get help for him and convince him I love and want him home .

Hand hold please .

Testimony to a mothers love
I love and miss him more every day .. not less

Hand hold,
That sounds very hard.
Why can't you see him?
Hopefully he knows you love him.

Sounds horrid.. What is a "moon child"?

Moon child is an expression for a child with autism

Have you sought specialist SEN legal advice? There are some good facebook groups where specialists offer SEN advocate support for parents, or more expensive, SEN lawyers...

I haven’t seen him because he believes I abandoned him
And thinks I won’t forgive or understand he was violent towards me

I swear I have exhausted every Avenue

So he’s been in care since he was 12? On
what basis? What’s his diagnosis? Why can’t he come home?

Sounds horrendous OP. Do you have a solicitor?

Oh my this sounds so horribly sad.

Surely the people who care for him at the moment can facilitate some safe face to face contact. Even if it’s very short initially.
Do they discuss contact in his Social care reviews.

sorry you are experiencing this. Social care for disabled children is an absolute shit show.

I have done family court
Understanding and wise judges make rulings
social workers and “specialist carer “ ( I use the term carer loosely ) don’t abide
You need money to challenge them

Social services have ignored 3 months of emails

My highly narcissistic mother sees him occasionally.. so they are facilitating family contact .
my mother allowed me to be raped at 14 and told social services I invented it as I am “ imaginary “ and create drama .

I divorced his father as he was violent . The focus is I allowed my sen child to remain in an abusive home , so am unfit to parent him .

I divorced his father when he was 2

Any way
no idea why today is worse than other Mother’s Day .
it just is
i am beyond sad