Why can’t I pull myself out of this hole

[LJME]

This has been going on for months and months now and I desperately need to make a change

I’m currently not working, feeling stuck in a rut and like life is passing me by. I feel anxious, I’ve shut myself off, feeling tearful and depressed and just hopeless, like I have nothing to give. I feel lonely. I over eat. I’m not looking after myself but I know that something has to change but I’m not sure how. I’ve got a long history with anxiety and depression and been on and off different antidepressants. I’m just not sure where to turn

Because you're unwell — either something that just happens for you sometimes, or as a result of your circumstances, either way it's normal to need a bit of outside help at times like this. Sounds like maybe it's time to go back to the GP to discuss medication options, and either ask for a referral to NHS Talking Therapies or self-refer.

Because humans are complicated and you're unwell at the moment.

'Pull yourself together' is not the answer.

Agree with the poster above that the GP would be a good start. Take it easy until you feel better.

There's also something that GP surgeries run in my area which your area might run something similar to — a service that's jointly run between the GP and local mental health services that places a psych worker in GP practices, who has more time to talk to people, check in with them, and help them access community services, than the GP might. If your GP service has something like that, the doctor might refer you into it.

Could you explain why you're not working? Your age, family situation etc?
Do you want to work?
Are you on antidepressants currently?
Maybe try to get out a bit more engaging with people and really think about what you'd like to do with your life.
Make a small change each week and don't be too hard on yourself.

You need a hand up, grab mine, lets get you out of that hole

What a wonderful person you are. Sorry you are feeling this way op.