To have not seen my teen son all day or

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For him to even text or call without prompting. He text at 20.45 wishing me a happy mother's Day and saying sorry after I had text to say it would have been nice to see or hear from him. He is 18 and has a job still lives at home. He stayed at his gfs parents last night so I've not seen or heard from him all day without prompting. I am so disappointed. We invited him out with us but the fact he didn't text to wish me a happy mother's Day without me prompting has made me really upset. It would mean more then a card or any gift just to acknowledge the day.

Im sorry. I would find that hugely hurtful too.
Sadly 18 still sometimes falls into the selfish youth category.
If you normally feel your relationship is a good positive one then I would definitely be talking to him tomorrow to let him know how thoughtless he was.
maybe dial back on the washing/cooking/being generally helpful stuff yourself too

That’s rubbish.

Is he normally so thoughtless?

I thought we had a good to relationship and that he respected me and the shit I put up with. We have had a tough couple of years but we had come through it. He can be really selfish. I don't want to go on to him and have a row but this has hurt me and surprised more then I thought about how as elfish and thoughtless he is. He.isnt even home yet.

Sorry that's really poor. You sound like a really caring Mother. I'm afraid you are going to have to start getting heavier with him. You want him to grow up to be a loving, caring husband etc, so he needs to learn from you. Tell him how you feel!

He was quite generous at Christmas but probably only because he knows he is getting something back. It literally makes me think that's it, no more lifts to work etc.

I think at 18 you can excuse him for being quite self-absorbed. How is he with birthdays and other special occasions? I do think that some young people just don’t see as much importance in mothers’ day as other occasions.

Agree with @TheSilentSister, I would be having an adult to adult conversation.

We need to stop the 'teenager' behaviour, boys/men don't grow up as fast crap and see it for what it is - disrespectful, selfish and rude. If my DD's bf spent Mother's Day at our house I'd be commenting on it!

I was trying not to make a big fuss about. Half expected him to turn up with a card and chocolate but absolutely nothing. Seriously want to let rip and tell him I'm done.