To wonder why people don’t say what they mean

[Vikingess]

I keep reading posts from people who tell mumsnet about things that have upset them but don’t address the problem.
If your partner is being a dick; tell them. If your boss is being a prick - call them out. Not popular, but I do get exasperated with people who whinge about stuff but don’t confront it.
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They haven't got the balls to and dont want to deal with being consistent.

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Because they want to keep their relationships/jobs?

There are far better ways to communicate than "you're being a prick," and besides, "don't sweat the small stuff" is often good advice.

I think there are people who need drama, I am thinking this more and more

With some people there will always be this long drawn out need to complicate everything

I think that's a little unfair - it's not always easy (or advisable!) to tell your boss they're a prick, even if you do it in more diplomatic language.

They are often financially dependent on their partners and can't risk ending the relationship. Not many of us would keep a job if we called out our bosses every time they were dickheads.

Sometimes, when you’re so angry/upset hard to know if you’re being unreasonable or not - so good to get a non-biased opinion.

I don’t think always necessary to say what’s on your mind- I don’t like to sweat the small stuff and like the quiet life

Also, I can’t stand people who feel the need to always say what they mean no matter how thoughtless or rude it is and just ‘tell it like it is’

When people tell things as it is, they get abuse/ridicule/complaints for doing so.

That's the problem. People don't want to HEAR things as they are and react badly when they do hear it.

My OH is a typical Yorkshire bloke - the "tell it as it is" type of person. Luckily he has broad shoulders and just shrugs off the fallout when he tells his relatives, neighbours, friends, colleagues, workmen, etc the reality as he sees it. He's also big and ugly enough that people tend not to turn physical towards him when he says things as they are. I cringe when I'm with him, but inwardly I agree with everything he says. I just wish I had the balls to say it like he does.

I’ve tried it.
Currently unemployed, have no friends and non of my family will speak to me.
I’m sure when things settle down I’ll have a great feeling of freedom.
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