To feel sad today?

[MovieQueen12]

Most of the time I am happy to have no kids. Almost 38 now and so running out of time even if I did want them and I have a multitude of health issues.
But can be hard on days like today on social media, where mothers are talking about how their lives changed for the better once they had kids, that they have never known love like it and never will and also the step parent posts. Those saying that their step kids are like their own children and how happy they are.
I don't believe they are fabricated stories either, they genuinely do all seem to adore each other. As I said I am normally fine with not being a mum or being in a happy relationship but today is getting to me for the first time ever.

Sorry you’re feeling like this today… here’s some flowers from me 💐

It's probably not the answer you want but I'd say don't believe everything you read, or do yourself a favour and DON'T read all the stuff about how wonderful motherhood is because it isn't for loads of women. Read the threads on here about the disappointment of sh*t DHs and kids who forget or can't be bothered or worse. Go to Gransnet and similar and read the estrangement threads.
Sorry to be blunt, I hear your distress but nothing is wonderful. As I see it, a few very lucky people have happy childhoods and loving families and so things like Mothers Day are a blessing but I don't think that's the case for most.

I admire Rachel Cusk as the first author to write about motherhood as not being that wonderful but actually a huge test. There are lots of tests in life, multiple illnesses are one, take care of yourself, if you really want children in your life, volunteer at a school or similar child-based activity. All the best.

Thanks all x

There is more than way to live a life. It can be hard if you don’t follow the prescribed route, whether that’s school, university, job, or marriage, house, kids etc.

But remember that nothing is guaranteed in life. I have had moments in my teens’ lives where I have wondered why I had kids, and do the pros outweighs the cons.

Most lives have their heartaches and disappointments. And parenthood is no guarantee to happiness.

Social media has glorified parenthood to an unrealistic degree and reduced the negatives to a sleepless night cured by a hilarious drink at wine o’clock. Stay away from that nonsense.

Hope you feel better and can think of ways to lead a happy and content life x