AIBU?
Inheritance
Idonkt · 19/03/2023 11:40
My mum and dad bought their house in 1992, it was owned jointly by them and both their names were on the deeds,
They were unmarried because my dad was and is not divorced from his ex wife, they split in the 70s and have no contact since.
When my mum passed away dad became sole owner of the house, he decided to leave me the house in his Will.
He is still alive and I live with him
We wanted to ask if he passes away could his estranged wife legally be entitled to the house as my dad and her didn't divorce.
Am I being unreasonable?
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SlipSlidinAway · 19/03/2023 12:43
Idonkt · 19/03/2023 11:53
I don't receive benefits and I would never have my dad put in a care home, I have help at home for him
Nice sentiment but you just don't know what the future has in store. There are all sorts of reasons why you might not be able to look after your df at home.
Skeuomorph · 19/03/2023 12:48
If he has a wife, will she be his next of kin for things like hospital admittances/pensions etc?
Difficult situation that your parents have put you in, OP. If he was to pursue a divorce now, wouldn’t his assets be taken into account as part of a financial settlement?
Does he have children with his wife?
Gymnopedie · 19/03/2023 12:52
OP I've replied to your question based on the law as it is in England and Wales. I've seen on your thread in Legal that you're in Ireland. Please consult a solicitor there, I'm not qualified to comment on Irish law. A short meeting with a solicitor will give you and your father the definitive answer you need and you can either forget about it because there's no problem, or take any steps necessary to ensure that your father's wishes are carried out.
gogohmm · 19/03/2023 13:00
He can file for divorce online, it's takes a little over 6 months and costs about £600. He will need his marriage certificate and ideally his ex wife's address including email. It would be best if he can tell her in advance he's doing it and she gives her blessing so as not to have issues. He can do it on the grounds of irretrievable breakdown 5 years + so her consent isn't actually needed
honeylulu · 19/03/2023 13:01
Oh bum. Wrote a long response and lost it. The gist of it is 1. Your father could instigate a divorce and hopefully it would be simple and the wife would raise no claim on assets given the long period during which they've lived financially independently, but there is a risk. It's unlikely a claim would succeed especially if the marriage was brief and had no children but its still a small risk. But due your father even know if the wife is still alive? If she isn't then problem solved. Does he have contact details to serve papers? 2. If he does nothing about divorce and dies the prima facie the house passes to you under the will. If wife hears of the death she may pop up and try and claim but if the families aren't in touch she may never hear about it anyway. Plus claim is unlikely to succeed for the same reasons (not dependent/short marriage/no children/ long standing separation). I would say this is lower risk than 1. 3. Your father transfers the house to you now. If the total value of his assets is likely to be higher than the nil rate band HMRC can assert that this is an IHT avoidance exercise unless your father pays you market rent to stay in the property. It may also be seen as a false disposal to avoid care home costs or a claim by the wife. It also means once the house is in your name you could boot your father out (you won't but no one wife knows that for sure). So that's the risk there. If you go for 3 you both need independent legal advice to cover yourself from such allegations. In fact if you can afford it get legal advice anyway. If it were me I'd go for 2 but you shouldn't take advice from random in the Internet. (I am a solicitor though.)
SoapOperaFamily · 19/03/2023 13:20
My dad did not divorce his estranged wife after she had moved in with another man she had 2 babies with. He thought it would be ‘a bother’ and costly. When he died, his will was ‘not found.’ The law comes down heavily in favour of the spouse, especially if your father dies intestate, no matter what his intentions. The estranged wife laid claim to most of my father’s estate, and in doing so took many properties owned by my dad’s family who’d owned them for several generations and which he had intended to pass to me and my siblings. She evicted tenants, sold them, and caused much grief to a circle of people she did not know and had no interest in knowing. She was just after the money.
My advice is to get very good watertight legal advice and to have any legal documents lodged with a third party so the estranged wife cannot ‘lose’ them. My dad’s estranged wife moved into his house the day he died, held a party there, and denied us all access. I never set foot in it again after that day. All the memories that were there gone now.
People can become very unpredictable and unpleasant when they see to possibility of profiting from a situation. If you don’t know this woman I would recommend protecting yourselves. Unfortunately it is your dad who has to do this, and my dad did not do so even though we begged him, because he just could not see the threat. He said she knew she had nothing to do with his family assets and would not be a problem. She was. And it’s left my family and I worse off to a 7 figure sum.
Idonkt · 19/03/2023 13:41
honeylulu · 19/03/2023 13:01
Oh bum. Wrote a long response and lost it. The gist of it is 1. Your father could instigate a divorce and hopefully it would be simple and the wife would raise no claim on assets given the long period during which they've lived financially independently, but there is a risk. It's unlikely a claim would succeed especially if the marriage was brief and had no children but its still a small risk. But due your father even know if the wife is still alive? If she isn't then problem solved. Does he have contact details to serve papers? 2. If he does nothing about divorce and dies the prima facie the house passes to you under the will. If wife hears of the death she may pop up and try and claim but if the families aren't in touch she may never hear about it anyway. Plus claim is unlikely to succeed for the same reasons (not dependent/short marriage/no children/ long standing separation). I would say this is lower risk than 1. 3. Your father transfers the house to you now. If the total value of his assets is likely to be higher than the nil rate band HMRC can assert that this is an IHT avoidance exercise unless your father pays you market rent to stay in the property. It may also be seen as a false disposal to avoid care home costs or a claim by the wife. It also means once the house is in your name you could boot your father out (you won't but no one wife knows that for sure). So that's the risk there. If you go for 3 you both need independent legal advice to cover yourself from such allegations. In fact if you can afford it get legal advice anyway. If it were me I'd go for 2 but you shouldn't take advice from random in the Internet. (I am a solicitor though.)
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Talia99 · 19/03/2023 13:57
Gymnopedie · 19/03/2023 11:59
As his wife made no contribution to the house, and you say there has been no contact since the 70s so presumably that means she is not in any way being financially supported by your father, then as long as your father's will has been drawn up by a professional, is clear about his wishes and is properly witnessed then she has no claim.
The ‘financial support’ requirement doesn’t apply to a spouse, unfortunately. Giving away the house with the clear intention of depriving a spouse (since the transfer wouldn’t work for anything else) can also be challenged.
Skeuomorph · 19/03/2023 14:06
Idonkt · 19/03/2023 13:58
yes two children who are now adults, I am my fathers full time carer, I am not in a financial positon to pay for his divorce
Skeuomorph · 19/03/2023 13:51
OP, does he have children with his wife?
Are you aware that his other children may also have a claim on his estate?
Just because he abandoned them (which it sounds like he did given he hasn’t seen their mother in decades), doesn’t mean they’re not his children.
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