I'm a single parent of 2 DD, eldest is autistic, youngest I'm questioning asd. I have a partner but we don't live together and DD'd aren't his, so I don't expect him to do much but he will when he can.
I have a good friend from the school who also has 2 DDs and a partner. He works full time and is never home. We ask eachother for favours, pick up kids etc but whenever she "Offers" to have mine, its always followed with can you have mine this day. Anyway, the family pet died and I watched her DD whilst she took it vets even though my eldest was sick, vomiting all day.
She now got 3 new pets to console the DDs grief.
First she asked me to take her to go the pets and I had agreed but then my youngest was sick and so was hers. So she asked another friend to take her and me to look after the sick child, along with my own. I agreed.
Now one of them needs to go vets to be neutered and she's asking me to pick up her kids/watch them for a bit.
I don't want to because i just don't want to. My kid has been ill for a week and a half and off school. She will finally be going back tomorrow and I want a fucking break! I haven't slept properly for god knows how long and even though I don't work, I have depression and anxiety. I'm in a really shitty situation with housing atm.
I feel like she treats me like her man like I must pick up the slack. I don't have a reason other than I just don't want to help her because it's not an emergency. And personally I don't even like animals. We have hamsters so she thinks I'm pet friendly.
AIBU to just say no, with no reason or apology because I'm not sorry I can't do it. I also think I'm autistic which doesn't help me empathising with her at all.
This isn't the first time she has asked me a dumb favour. I've had a shit couple of weeks and I've flipped on the kids dad and my partner because I'm so exhausted. I don't want to flip on her too and ruin the friendship. But I'm at the point where I really don't care about anyone's feelings because no-one gives to winks about mine.