How much would this annoy you?
DP regularly does my head in by not listening to what I say.. in isolation, each incident is really nothing and if anyone else
was the culprit (as a one off) then I wouldn’t bat an eyelid. Examples:
- sent him shopping today and he bought reduced fat yoghurt for the baby despite explaining to him a couple of weeks ago that the really baby needs full fat
- asked him to get some Ella’s Kitchen meals for the (11 month old) baby and he comes back with the 4+ month purée fruit style ones. I even told him before we went the particular “proper meal” one that she didn’t like. He did this a couple of weeks ago and I explained which ones she needs (though should be obvious)
- Told him about David Attenborough being “cancelled” by the BBC the other day. We had a quick 30 second convo about it. An hour later his brother texts him about it and he
comes to tell me about it as if he’s never heard it.
- Saw a restaurant pop up on Facebook that I thought looked good. Showed him and he agreed. The following week I suggested we go to said restaurant and it was like we’d never had the convo. Had to show him again and he said he couldn’t remember talking about it.
Theres a million more examples but you get the gist.
When I pull him up on it he gets really defensive. He’s got a bit of a chip on his shoulder due to me going to a top uni and being more academic than him (he’s more able than me in many other ways), so will often come back with “well I’m sorry I’m so thick”. It’s really not about being “thick” though, is it? Another one that boils my blood is blaming it on “being a man”.
He seems to manage very well at work in a complicated job, so can’t be too “thick” for that or affected by the disability of having a penis there!
Anyway… AIBU to be annoyed by this death by a thousand cuts of not listening?!
Also.. any suggestions on how to get through to him that it’s actually quite hurtful?!