30th bday abroad solo

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I've had great fun today. It's my 30th.

Went away solo yday to celebrate my bday. Today I did an all day- quad bike tour. Had great fun.

I'm now in a bar in my hotel, having a free cocktail and all dressed up, having been told this would be a good idea as there is live music, and as the bar is on the 13Th floor it has spectacular views.

It's very underwhelming, saddening and lonely.

I'll be heading downstairs soon as I feel a bit silly haha, and also don't think going to bars on my own is for me. Woulda been happy just spending the evening chilling in my room after a great day tbh, instead of feeling a bit bleurgh right now haha.

Feel like I've ruined the day a little bit doing this, but I guess you got to try things once hey? I don't think going to a bar on my own is for me.

Looking forward to going downstairs back to my room soon, and spending the next hour and half in my room chilling in my hotel room.

Just posting this for moral support and hoping others have kinda been in a similar position?

Here's to being 30. Happy that Ive come my first full solo trip abroad at least and enjoyed it. X

Happy birthday! Sounds like you’ve had a really fun day and maybe the bar is not your thing but at least you got a free cocktail! Hope you have a lovely time for the rest of your evening, chilling in your room. If I was you that’s what I would prefer too.

I’ve got a big birthday coming up soon. I love the idea of going away on my own! What a great idea

Happy birthday! Glad you've had a good day, enjoy your drink and chilling when you get back to your room!

And thanks for bringing back great memories of my 30th, which I spent on a solo holiday in Australia!

Hi OP,

Happy birthday and congratulations on your first solo holiday. It's fantastic that you enjoyed the quad biking. I spent my 30th birthday hiking solo through New England viewing the autumn colours. I totally agree with you that whilst solo day time activities are fun being solo in a bar is a completely different situation. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Don't dwell on it, just go back to your room, have a lovely bubble bath and enjoy the solitude/film/book and the rest of your break.

30 is a great age to be able to say "fuck it, I'll do what I want" and also to try things that a 20 something might not have the courage to try. Whatever you do, it's OK.

I'm another that had a solo holiday on ny 30th!

Oh well, you tried a bar and that bar on this day wasn't for you. There will be other bars and other days! And lots of other things to do and places to go!

Have a lovely rest of birthday!

Awww, don't feel like you've made a mistake, let alone that it's spoiled your day! You've had a (free) drink, checked out the hotel facilities, looked at the view, heard some music, and you're not enjoying this specific atmosphere/activity right now. Maybe it's not the kind of thing you enjoy in general/solo/on a trip, or maybe you're just not in the mood tonight. Good thing you're absolutely free to go do something else!

I travel solo a lot, and while I do generally find hotel bars a very low-pressure place to have a drink/meal on my own if I don't feel like going out, they're definitely not a "must-do" activity. Some are gems, sometimes you meet a cool fellow traveler, sometimes it's just a convenient place for a quick change of scene, and sometimes you just can't be bothered. But whatever the story - if you'd rather be in your room relaxing, that's 100% your choice. (And it sounds like you could probably use some very relaxed downtime after the day you've had.)

Happy birthday!! 🍸🍰🎉

Happy Birthday!

I love going on holiday alone sometimes. If you think about it, when you go with other people, this kind of thing still happens.

A recommend restaurant is shit. A bar is full of nasty drunks. You choose the rainy day to go for a six mile walk…

It is a shame the bar was a bit of a letdown, but c’est la vie. I hope you enjoy the rest of your trip.

Happy birthday!
Where in the world are you?
It's fine you're not having the most fun in the bar, get back to your room and chill out, at least you wonder if you missed out on anything by not going out the to the bar in the first place.

I’d love a solo drink. Sorry you aren’t enjoying it. Hope there’s hot choc in your room and you have a relaxing rest of your day.

happy birthday x

Many happy returns. I'll be 30 for my next birthday and thinking of going away alone somewhere nice too!

I've been away alone before and the lonely feeling specifically in a bar in the evening resonates with me. During the day doing stuff/ restaurants etc no problem but I know what you mean.

Happy birthday! You can always consider some kind of group trip another time?! Meanwhile I hope you enjoy bits of the rest of your trip.

Happy birthday!

I'm very close to your age and love going away solo but I find that in the evening it's good to have things planned and even pub tours are great as you have excuse to mingle.

Hope you have a lovely time

Happy birthday!! Well done you, you should be really proud of yourself.
And just because you've decided something was t for you doesn't ruin your day.
I hope you've something lovely planned for tomorrow also

Hey everyone, thanks for your comments. I've had a lovely day today, gorgeous.

I've really enjoyed my time away here. Returning tomorrow

I spent my 30th birthday on a solo trip to Thailand/Vietnam/Cambodia. I needed to give myself something to look forward to! Just take a nice selfie dressed up and when you look back in a few years time, you'll probably have forgotten you felt a bit bleurgh.

Did you take a book or a kindle with you? It's easier to sit on your own if you are
'Doing Something'

But for me the bit of my solo holidays I love is a nice lunch out somewhere and a room picnic of snacks and a bottle of wine, cans of gin etc in the evening watching crap TV.

Happy birthday 😊 x