For being annoyed that my dad doesn't come for sons birthday

[Sadless]

It was my sons 11th birthday on Wednesday and he never came. My daughter sent him a message on Facebook and it says he been active but hasn't look at the message (I don't use Facebook). I did remind him the week before so he did know and he's been taking leave from work what he needed to take before April so has been home all week. It might seem stupid but unless I ring him he never rings me. My parents separated when I was 13 he started another relationship when I was 16 and pretty much since then hasn't really bothered. I was living in the family home at 16 and he literally moved out to live with her and he paid bills, got food in and stuff but wouldn't see him for weeks.
Maybe I am just being stupid

Sal

No you are not being stupid
Would you put up with this from a friend?
Just because he is your dad doesnt mean you should accept this behaviour
Your trying to get his approval, you hever will, stop putting the effort in

I don't think he's necessarily obliged to come for your son's birthday, unless it's really important to your son. By 11, visits from grandparents aren't usually top of a child's birthday list; at 5 or 6, it may be different.

But it does sadly sound as though he's consistently made a poor showing in many ways. Sorry to hear this. I hope you have some more reliable people in your life.

Call him and speak to him about it all

My sons disbled and likes grandparents visiting I don't really go to his because I never know when he will be at home. I thought he might have been to see is partner family and thats why he's not been. Thats what happened for my older sons birthday but just been told he was seen in pub yesterday afternoon.
Honestly I don't have anybody been arguing recently alot with my husband and if I had to leave wouldn't go to him.

Thanks sal

Your dad is shit, like a lot of them unfortunately, I'd forget him like he forgets you and your children.