To ask if you would do this?

[PinkRiceKrispies]

Partner of just over a year. Do not live together, not engaged or anything.
Ask partner to buy mothers day cards for both yours and his mums and write it from the both of you.
Too soon or OK?

I don’t know what the voting means but way too soon

Sounds like he thinks you’re his secretary
Big red flag

Just no. Don’t do this

Too soon or OK?

Ha ha ha nice try.

Why would it EVER be ok?

Why does one person think their partner is their PA?
Why is their partner a proxy for the work they ought to be doing for their own mother?

Is this a reverse? Absolutely not!

Oh, is there an acceptable timescale for women to just cave in & start acting as a bloke's unpaid skivvy?

No it's my cousin.
She has been with her bloke just over a year. Told him to buy the mother's day cards and write in them from 'Liam and Natalie' . Just found it odd but don't know if that's just me.

It's always too soon to do that. Been married 15 years and there's still no way I would be doing that.

Why would both names be in the card unless there’s some kind of incest?

They are a couple. Where have you got incest from?!

If it's not your mother/mother figure that raised you your name doesn't go in the card.

That's just weird and really inappropriate.

@Shoxfordian 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Gross comment.

because lots of Mums and their adult childrens partners are close and they act like their mum too.

@PinkRiceKrispies

Too soon for the choosing of (but I'm very fussy!!) & never for the writing in, Christ, surely that's the least your cousin can do, write in the card!

depends on how well her partner & mum get on as to whether her name or both.

Hang on, do couples really sign mother's day cards?! I give one to my mum; DH gives one to his. We don't put both our names on.

Thought it was just me.
I wouldn't be happy either if I had a DD who got her boyfriend to choose a mother's day card for me. Lazy and inappropriate.

I’ve been married for over 10 years, but still only sign my own name in the card I give to my mum. She’s not DH’s mum!
And DH buys his own card for his mum - I’d pick one up for him if he asked me to, but he’s perfectly capable of choosing one himself.

The signing the card isn't toooo weird but they should buy their own card

It’s really weird for anyone to sign a mother’s day card that isn’t to their mother. And usually I’d say buy your own card but I don’t think it’s a massive deal if one partner is buying a card anyway and the other asks them to grab a second at the same time.

Sorry, I made an assumption about the sexes.

Natalie is being a twat.

A Mothers'm Day card should be from the child, not from anyone else.

Think it’s a bit weird to put anyone else’s name in a Mother’s Day card tbh- I wouldn’t put my husbands name in a card to my Mum because she’s not his Mum

Oh god I put both our names to my mum and he puts both our names to his mum.

I thought it was normal.

He calls my mum 'mum' since we got married and she treats him like a son! She would find it weird if I didn't put his name.

In general no, sign your own card to your own parent and leave it at that. None of my exs ever signed mine for my mum nor me theirs for their mums. However...
DPs name is in my card to my mum as his own mum isn't really in his life- but he loves my mum and genuinely feels mothered by her. We've been together a while though. A year feels quite soon?

Really weird. We've been married 20 years and have never done this.

Way too soon. They don't live together. She is not her mother or mother-in-law.
I don't sign dh's card to his mum and we have been married 2 decades.

Buying the card may be ok if she can't get to the shops.