Just working out the free childcare hours and actually DH and I will be muxh better off if we both dropped to 3- 4 day week to deliberately reduce our incomes. Would obviously be nice way to live too! Anyone else doing same? Seems mental but we've looked at it 100 times over and it's true!
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AviMav · 20/03/2023 21:21
Couples may not pool all their income together but if you are living together. THE BILLS are pooled together because you surely are going 50/50 or you should be. Which is a save all round. Being a single parent you don't have that option... the rest of your point is completely irrelevant
ThinkingMeat · 20/03/2023 21:50
Not at all. Addressed this point already in earlier response to you. It wouldn't change anything for couples at all or prevent them from keeping finances separate.
Ilikepinacoladass · 20/03/2023 21:46
It still sounds like you're assuming couples / households pool their income together / share the bills equally, which just isn't the case a lot of the time!
stickystick · 20/03/2023 21:57
@Ilikepinacoladass
In parts of Switzerland single people with dependant children (or elderly) living with them are taxed differently from single people without dependants and married/partnered co-habitants.
Say a married couple earn 60k and 40k respectively. Their combined income is taxed as if they both earned 50k.
A single mother with kids who earns 100k would also pay tax as if she earned 50k.
stickystick · 20/03/2023 21:57
@Ilikepinacoladass
In parts of Switzerland single people with dependant children (or elderly) living with them are taxed differently from single people without dependants and married/partnered co-habitants.
Say a married couple earn 60k and 40k respectively. Their combined income is taxed as if they both earned 50k.
A single mother with kids who earns 100k would also pay tax as if she earned 50k.
AviMav · 20/03/2023 21:59
The majority of couples do split household bills if they live together. People who don't do this are in the minority. It's not the majority where one person pays all the bills and the other person lives practically free within the same household yet they date.
You shouldn't assume this is the norm/common.
Ilikepinacoladass · 20/03/2023 21:46
It still sounds like you're assuming couples / households pool their income together / share the bills equally, which just isn't the case a lot of the time!
Ilikepinacoladass · 20/03/2023 22:02
Not assuming it's the norm. But also not assuming a 50/50 split is the norm. Often if one partners earns a bit less they will pay a bit less towards bills etc.
AviMav · 20/03/2023 21:59
The majority of couples do split household bills if they live together. People who don't do this are in the minority. It's not the majority where one person pays all the bills and the other person lives practically free within the same household yet they date.
You shouldn't assume this is the norm/common.
Ilikepinacoladass · 20/03/2023 21:46
It still sounds like you're assuming couples / households pool their income together / share the bills equally, which just isn't the case a lot of the time!
ThinkingMeat · 21/03/2023 02:32
Not assuming it's the norm. But also not assuming a 50/50 split is the norm. Often if one partners earns a bit less they will pay a bit less towards bills etc.
Suggested changes would have no impact om that whatsoever. Couples would have completely separate finances and tax allowances as now. Usually such systems allow transfer of allowances between them if they choose but not required. No impact on couples choosing to keep money separate or what they pay. None. It simply adjusts tax codes so single people aren't taxed more than them for the same household income. Like you say they are meeting all costs alone already, so more expensive of course, that will continue the same. They just won't be trying to do that with their income more heavily taxed on top before they even start paying all of those bills on their own from what is left after tax. Very simple, proved to work in many other countries, totally fair, easy to put in place, massively reduces inequality for women. Obvious thing to do.
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