I don’t understand the anger here.
I was working 4 days a week when I first went back after Dc2. We didn’t have any free hours at first, she was about 1yo, and we paid around £1k per month for childcare . i was earning just under £100k at 4 days pw.
When DC got to 3 we were eligible for the free 30 hours because I earned under £100k (DH earns much less). Of course, childcare wasn’t entirely free because it only covers term time etc so we still paid a bit, but much less than when we were funding it completely. Particularly as the free hours could stretch further over 4 days.
Had I increased my hours when DC was 3 I’d have tipped into the over £100k bracket. We’d have lost the free childcare hours (worth several hundred a month), I’d have had to pay an extra day’s childcare, AND in that tax bracket you lose your personal allowance, so are effectively double taxed between £100k and £125k. I would have increased my hours, had less time with my Dc and have actually had significantly less money (after childcare) than I did on a 4 day week. So no, the extra free childcare hours (which does nearly cover a 5–day week of full time work) did NOT make me feel obliged to increase my hours when my DC was 3.
I was not wanting to increase my hours anyway, but as I am on a defined benefit scheme I wouldn’t have had the option of fiddling about with pension contributions.
I can’t see why reducing hours when DC is 3 is any more morally reprehensible than me NOT increasing my hours when I got some funded childcare hours, for just one of the 3 years my Dc was at nursery, and I was contributing as a higher rate taxpayer the whole time.
I don’t regard that as scamming the taxpayer and I think it is ridiculous that anyone would think so. As a high earner I am a net contributor and just like anyone else I can decide where, on the sliding scale of working more or less, I wish to balance my life. And so can OP. The hard threshold for childcare hours is a bit ridiculous, as is the threshold for child benefit applying to individual income and not household income, because it can disincentivise people from working more hours, but the govt can fix that if they actually want to.
As an aside, I do think working part time has affected my career trajectory but we made that decision for family and caring reasons, not purely financial, and it was necessary for us even with the negative impact it’s had from that side. But I would take that into consideration in making a decision as it’s not just about money now, as others have said.