Fwb

[Purplekeyboard]

I have have a hobby which has been on the back burner for many years. I recent decided to get back to it and take some lessons.

I found a lovely teacher and I go for weekly 1:1 lessons.

To my utter surprise, I fancy him! I have been single for 10 years, my last relationship was so awful, I thought I would never fancy anyone ever again.

I don't want a full on relationship, but I like the idea of a FWB kinda arrangement. I could have my lesson and then 5#@9 afterwards. That's presuming he is up for it.

Please put me off this idea by telling me what a disaster it would be!!

FWB rarely work out for both people imo.

You risk embarrassing yourself if not reciprocated.

If I was enjoying the hobby, I wouldn't embarrass myself suggesting it u less I knew 100% he was flirting back.

Its a mad idea. You might get emotionally involved and end up being hurt.

That's an awfully big presumption! What makes you think he is (a) available and (b) likely to be happy with a FWB situation? Not all men just want meaningless shags you know!

But if he is, they can be fun. I had one in my thirties, all amicable for a couple of years, we're both happily married to other people now. I'm positive neither of us wanted more.

Enjoy the fantasy - just the fantasy! - then you can go on enjoying your hobby too.

Sometimes a fantasy beats the real thing - a nice bit of icing on life's cake.

I don't really understand this. Are you saying that you would be happy to have sex with him but you don't want any kind of relationship e.g. dating? So you like his body, but you don't want to get to know him in person? Is he meant to be flattered by this?

Just putting a different point of view forward!

I agree, why would he find this a compliment?

Men think differently than women, and sad to say I believe it's true about 90% of men that they can't have female friends... there's always that desire.

If he finds you even remotely attractive, the slightest bit of flirting and you'll know his feelings if he's not taken, gay, or you're not unattractive to him.

But be careful, men have feelings too, so it could be that he develops some, which could make things awkward. If you can handle that possibility, I say go for it, he'll welcome it! But the other point to consider is that he might be wary as he might think you're just getting out of paying!- so maybe set ground rules first. Would you be happy paying someone that you're having sex with?... even if it's an unrelated service...

What does 5#@9 mean?

I had a Fwb
10 years later still together with 2 kids

I would deffo still pay him for the lesson, so I guess you are right, it might feel like I was paying for both... If I didn't pay, it might feel like I am giving my body in lieu of pay.

He is just such a nice man, I didn't believe they even existed after the relationships I have had. And I haven't had sex for a very, very long time!

I don't have time for a relationship and I don't really want to get involved on that intense level.

Maybe you are right, I can just enjoy the fantasy.

Shag