To be annoyed by advice about baby sleeping

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Basically whenever I mention I'm tired or that I was up in the night a few times with my 10 week old, instead of sympathising or offering to make me a tea, family member always suggest that I should be giving him a bottle like that would solve everything. I end up getting upset or defensive which I know is silly but feels like a judgement (blame the lack of sleep!) But he's a new baby! They famously don't sleep all through the night and parents are tired, right?

Family member who is keen to get dc alone?

Sorry, should add he's breastfed! And does take a bottle in the evening already which doesn't make him sleep all night 🙄

This is why you don't share anything about baby, it only causes issues. If you want to tell people you're tired just say the neighbours are keeping you up.

Or just lie and says baby loves the bottle so much they were up all night with it so you're never doing that again.

@Bunnyhascovidnoteggs I don't think it's that, it's meant well in that they want me to get more rest/ are going on what they did back in the 80s but I don't find it helpful

If someone complained to me about something specific, I naturally offer a solution, rightly or wrongly unless they give me a script on what to say or not I just say what I think

And I expect the same in return if I don't tell them how will they know?

Yes of course at 10 weeks they don't sleep no matter if breast or bottle fed!! I do think though later down the line like 5/6 months + bottle fed babies tend to sleep a lot better. Basing this on my own personal experience and what I've read online. But I know exactly what you mean, sometimes when you're that sleep deprived you don't want a solution, you just want support or help or maybe just a good moan to make you feel better . My mum is forever giving me old fashioned advice I don't want