To sleep in a different room?

[WimbourneWasps]

DH thinks I am.

He's had a horrible stinking cold since Tuesday. I was away visiting family as a grandparent is dying. When I got home late on Tuesday he was already in bed, so I went into the spare room.

Wednesday night he's feeling a bit better but still really really snotty so I slept in the spare room again.

Tonight I was watching tv and he went to bed early so again I've gone in the spare room. He's just come in and asked why I'm ignoring him and why I won't come back to our bed.

1. He's got a bastard of a cold I don't want

1. He's snoring louder than anything I've ever experienced

1. He keeps waking up to sneeze violently

1. I'm having cancer surgery in 4 weeks and as part of my immune disorder if I get a cold I get a chest infection, if I get a chest infection I won't be able to have the surgery I've been waiting 3 months for...

I'm not being selfish am I? Or if I am it's justified right?

You’re not being selfish - you’re being sensible. Hopefully his cold will shift soon and you can go back to your own bed!

He’s on a message board right now and they’re immediately suggesting that you’re watching porn.

Totally not being selfish, you're going through some stressful stuff at the moment and he's obviously too thick to see why you need a good, peaceful nights sleep and to keep yourself infection free for the next few weeks
Sleep is a healer and we all have the right to be as rested as we can/need to be to deal with stressful stuff

He's acting like a spoilt selfish child and he's not bothered about your physical and mental wellbeing

Sending positive vibes to you for your surgery x

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You're having cancer surgery soon and he doesn't care if you catch a cold (and therefore weaken your inmune system)?

Wtf, that's insane. He should be doing everything right now in making you feel better.

Good luck with your surgery

Hi @WimbourneWasps you're not being selfish.
Hope all goes ok with your surgery x

YANBU regardless but “I'm having cancer surgery in 4 weeks”. He is beyond selfish! You need to rest and be as strong as possible. In his shoes I’d be isolating in my room!

Best wishes for your surgery 💐

I don't get this . He has a cold your avoiding close contact. Why is he taking it personally?

He's being totally ridiculous!

He's being ridiculous/unsupportive given a) the snoring and b) the risk to your surgery.

🤣🤣🤣 was thinking the threads were linked!!