To not mention about the ring?

[Letsgetquizzical]

I've recently found my old engagement ring from ex dp and think I would like to start wearing it again. Not because it has any kind of sentimental value to me at all (ex did not 'propose' in any kind of traditional or meaningful way) just because I like it and think its pretty. I have lost weight since breaking up with ex 5yrs ago so it doesn't even fit my ring finger anymore.

Wibu to not mention to my current dp that it's my ex engagement ring? I doubt he would notice as it doesn't look like a traditional engagement ring but I feel a little awkward about it in case he thinks I still hold a candle for my ex by wearing it! Or should I just be honest? I wouldn't want to hurt dp's feelings at all but at the same time it's my ring and if I'm not going to wear it I may as well give it away, it isn't valuable in the slightest so not worth doing anything with.

Your like for a piece of jewellery doesn't override your dps feelings. Sell it and buy something nice with it

I think he would be hurt and confirms you still have a thing for your ex

Just ask your partner? Though considering you call him your “current” dp, I suspect you’re not in this for the long haul.

Meh it's just a ring you like.
Enjoy wearing it!

What a way to fuck with a man’s head!

That would be really sneaky and ill-advised. Don't do this.

No. Not on. Don't do it

I don't see a problem with you wearing it. It's your ring, you like it and it seems to hold no sentimental value.

But I do see a problem with you not telling him exactly that ^^

Not at all! I very much am in it for the long haul, I just said that so as to not confuse ex dp and dp. In my defence I am very tired.

I really don't want to fuck with his head, hence why I'm asking. I absolutely do not feel anything for my ex anymore, at all. The ring is literally just a ring to me, it's not fancy or expensive, no diamonds or gold, nothing that makes it 'special'.

I personally couldn't do that to my husband so would get rid of it and buy one similar but had less meaning behind it.

Fair enough @MrsDoylesDoily. I think maybe honesty is the best policy.

Of course you should wear it if you like it: it's just bits of metal and minerals. Pay no attention to the loons suggesting you defer to your boyfriend on how to accessorize your own body.

It's just jewellery, I'd wear it. I cleaned DH's ex wife's engagement and wedding rings, when dh found them in a vase which had come from their old house, lol. I stored them in a box in the top of my wardrobe until I gave them to stepdd, her daughter. It never bothered me. I think stepdd sold them.

You say your ex didn't 'propose'. Did he even pick the ring? I think there is a difference between your ex designing the ring as a symbol of your love and promise to marry and you being out shopping, you going 'ooo i love this ring', one/both of you buying it and him saying 'i guess it can be your engagement ring'.

I have a special piece if Jewellery that an ex brought me - now worth about £1000 plus and I love it - I won’t sell it and I do wear it - but DH doesn’t know it was from an ex - married 20 years and he doesn’t need to know.

He has a solid silver expensive item an ex brought him and he still uses it daily - I don’t care!! It’s not a big deal and I don’t feel hurt by it.

Imagine if a mate or family member notices you wearing it and mentions it in front of him. Or if you bumped into your ex and he sees you wearing it.

Nah, sell it and buy something else that you like even more. Don’t tell your DP that’s what you’ve done, and if he notices the new ring then you can say you forgot you had it or you’d thought you’d lost it and it tuned up in a coat pocket.

All these so called white lies. Why can't people be in relationships where they can be honest about everything and it doesn't create arguments or rows....anyway I cant imagine ever wanting to wear anything from an ex years ago. Totally happy with what my lovely hubby gives me.

It’s the sort of thing that if it comes out down the line that it was an engagement ring, the fact that you kept it a secret, makes it SO much worse than if you’d just been open and honest from the start.

If he doesn’t like the idea of it, so be it. You sell it and buy one of the zillion other rings on the planet.

So long as you're OK with him wearing things his ex gave him from choice.

You could just ask him, I don't think many men could care less. I'd probably just wear it, given the other relationship was years ago unless your current partner is particularly insecure

I always thought the ring was returned after an engagement was called off, so I am surprised you still have it. Still he is just your “current” DP so I am sure it doesn’t really matter. Knock yourself out.

Why wouldn't she be?

Honestly, we're not all that insecure. Inanimate objects don't have magic powers.