Can't find a hairdressers who won't cause damage

[Pennythoughts28]

Hello all 🙂 I have long frizzy wavy red hair , strand by strand it's thin but I have alot of it which makes people often comment on how 'thick ' it is , but my hairs pretty easily snapped or damaged , anyway , I've always had a problem with my hair when wet , it's beyond tangled and I have to take so long and so much care gently detangling it , today was the 3rd time in a row I've went to a hairdressers and theve just towel dried my dry frizzy hair then literally ripped a brush from scalp to the ends , today was the worse as when I got up there was clumps of hair over the floor being so tramatised I just paid and left , I didn't say anything as I lost most of my hair at age 21 due to illness and it's been something Ive feared and deeply tramatised me so when I seen the hair on the floor I could feel myself starting to cry and freak out and it was completely packed didn't want to embarrass myself anyway can I ask for a dry trim from now on , should I be a little bit braver and tell them not to brush my hair like that , I actually did say god almighty today at one point because she made my ear bleed with comb 😬, should I wash my hair myself and detangle then go for blowdry anyone any advice on how I can stop them damaging my hair but also because it's frizzy a blowdry saves me so much trouble thank you

Can you use a detangling product on your hair OP?

Would you consider doing it yourself? There are so many tutorials on Youtube. I do mine from tutorials and I much prefer it, even if it's sometimes a bit uneven, to going to a hairdressers, as I never seem to get what I want there! If you do this, just remember, always cut off less than you think (you can always cut more another day, you can never add it back) and get proper hairdressing scissors.

I have the same problem and as awkward as it is, I say to her every time 'remember to go really gently as it breaks easily' . I ask them to gently pat dry with a towel also. They oblige and laugh awkwardly and that's it!

But when you sit down at the start of the appointment why don’t you say ‘this is my hair type, I have to be so careful when brushing, can you make sure you’re careful too’?

if you don’t tell them how are they to know?

Fine a stylist who specializes in curly hair.

Was it a wash and blow dry they were doing?

They shouldn’t be brushing it when wet. Do they comb through the conditioner? Add any products?

i have similar hair and never experienced this. It’s awful it’s happened to you so many times. Since it’s happened in a few I can only suggest being really clear when you go in. Your hair is fragile, you don’t want a brush pulled through it and it to be treated gently. Maybe somewhere you can have a consultation beforehand?

Are they curly hair, hair dressers?

I have extensions and always do the initial wet brushing/combing myself if it’s a hairdresser not familiar with them.
they never mind.
hope you feel better soon.

Your hair sounds like mine. I now wash it myself before I go and walk out with it wet just slightly scrunched with a bit of mousse. Brushing or blow drying just makes it frizz. The less I do to it the better.

If you've got the cash for regular blow drys maybe consider having a Kerastraight treatment. It will transform your hair into something manageable and smooth! I pay about £140 twice a year.

I second finding a curly hairdresser! Whereabouts are you based?

Could you just get a dry cut somewhere like supercuts

I always comb through some leave in conditioner and get a dry cut

I wouldn't bother getting it washed, just arrive with it damp.

My daughter has wild curls. I couldn't get a brush through it but tried a brush while visiting my sister call a Head Jog and it has transformed it. Is almost slightly sprung and teeth are quite wide so it probably smooths rather than pulls through the bad bits but is miles better than anything else we've tried and I no longer bother with sprays as the build up of these was also causing issues in itself
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You have fine thick hair. Thick is not the opposite of fine - that would be coarse. Totally possible to have fine, thick hair!

Find a curly hairdresser and have you ever looked into the Curly Girl method? A lot of people who think they have "frizzy" hair find that it really helps.

YANBU, I also have fine hair hair but lots of it. You should either have a dry cut or tell them that you want to comb your hair yourself after they wash and condition it. Take your own comb.

You are the customer, you decide.

I use this, it's great

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