AIBU to be annoyed by this

[LaLobita]

Reposted from the work forum for visibility.

Not sure what to think about this.

I have PMDD and last week it triggered a mental health crisis. I had to take a few days off and seek medical attention. Normally I work through it but it was not something possible this month. It was my first time in a year in the role where I have had to take time off due to it.

So anyway I’ve returned to work and it emerges that my boss has told my whole team (9 people) that I had a nervous breakdown. I can’t help feeling that this is invading my privacy? Not sure if I’m overreacting here but I already feel quite vulnerable due to last week and now I feel embarrassed that all my team know from a third party about my mental health issues.

Do you have a HR department? I would be going straight there to complain about your manager giving it your information like that! I can't imagine that knowing they have done so is helping your well-being

Not only was it completely inappropriate to share your medical information with your team, but the language used was insensitive and outdated.

Your boss is hugely U. I would go straight to HR. He has no business telling people about your reason for being off work.

You’re not overreacting. I’d be furious, and feel so vulnerable and exposed. He’s basically told them your private medical information.

complain to HR

Fucking hell that's terrible!

I had a manger do similar to me, I asked her if I could nip out to a GP appointment because I had UTI symptoms.

Before I left, I went into the staff room and she said "Me and Emma have been talking, and we think you have thrush."

What. The. FUCK?!

I could not believe my ears and eyes. I left that job quick smart.
(and since when is pissing blood a symptom of thrush - not that I discussed my symptoms!)

Anyway, after a manger has done that, you can never trust them again.
When you are feeling stronger I'd be looking elsewhere for work.

I have PMDD, it's awful. I take escitalopram
which is a life changer

Thank you for your advice everyone. I have a HR meeting tomorrow anyway regarding being off so I’m going to mention it.

He’s also claimed some of my sales for his own commission so with both of these incidents together, I think it’s time to polish up my CV and get my ducks in a row.