Wwyd? First invite to a party

[Muffincupcakeheeler]

My 4 year old has received his first party invitation, we were so excited that he has been invited but when I checked the dates it turns out we are on holiday, the party is on a Saturday afternoon but we don't come back until the Sunday.
My little one has said he plays with the kid sometimes but I haven't heard his name before but don't want him to miss out on the party so I've 2 choices

1. Send a present in to nursery for the kid and apologise that my kid won't be able to attend

1. Come home early Saturday morning so my little one can go to the party (I don't mind coming home early)

I've asked my little one what he wanted to do about it but he's changed his mind 3 times 😕

I would just miss this one. There will be plenty more.

Oh bless, you don’t need to send a present in, just rsvp. He’ll get load more invites don’t change your holiday. If he doesn’t mention the kid he might not even enjoy the party.
i wouldn’t talk about it much more to your son - just say you’re away and big up your weekend away.

Enjoy your holiday

C) say “I’m very sorry Johnny can’t make it but I hope Billy enjoys his birthday party” with no present. You’ll be drowning in tedious parties before long, do NOT shorten your holiday for one.

Those aren’t the only options.

Just RSVP that you can’t go. You have plans. Don’t overthink it!

Why not suggest to DS he has him round to play another weekend? THere will be lots of parties, I promise you!

My DS is in nursery and has a party most weekends. I wouldn't cut a holiday short for a kids party. Especially one he isn't all that close too. Trust me, enjoy your holiday.

I would just RSVP no and don’t mention it to DS again, unless he brings up just say you’re on holiday and that’s exciting

RSVP to say you can’t make it but hope he has a brilliant time. No need to get a gift and don’t ask your 4 yo or cut your holiday short!!
there will be loads of other parties.
please RSVP though, as it is so stressful not knowing who might turn up and if there are enough party bags etc.

Soon you’ll think thank god I’m on holiday and have a legit excuse to miss the holy hell of a child’s party!

You're on holiday, just don't mention it to your DC again or make a big deal so they don't feel like they're missing out. Can't be helped when you have plans. Some people didn't even bother to RSVP for my DD's 3rd birthday!

This exactly as once they get to school you will soon be sick of them as they take over most weekends. No need to send a present or card its overkill unless it was maybe a best or a v close friend and even then presents are usually a very small token gift usually a book or a cheap toy or game or something.

Aww, I get that. Lots of us are navigating this now thanks to covid.

Go on holiday, enjoy.

I would perhaps reply saying you were away, but would love to have them to play the following week, then you could always give a wee gift then if you wanted to.