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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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lazy neighbours not taking in their own parcels!

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purpledalmation · 15/03/2023 19:27

AIBU to leave this huge great big parcel sat in my hallway until the lazy sods over the road come and collect it? Today there were both their cars in the drive and the curtains partly closed. 11 am. Poor delivery driver banged on their door and no one answered. They have form for not answering the door. So she asks me to take it in. I do, even though I dislike the neighbours (generally arses about parking near their house) but the delivery driver is clearly cold and wet.

Neighbours have not been seen but cars still there at 12 and curtains open. 8 hours later no show. I assume the girl put a note through their door?

I refuse to stagger across the road with the parcel. Suggestions?

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SoupDragon · 15/03/2023 19:29

I wouldn't assume the delivery woman put a note through the door, they don't always. Put your own note through if you don't want to take a big parcel over.

RenoDakota · 15/03/2023 19:29

I only take parcels in for my immediate next door neighbours. Flatly refuse all others.
Just stop doing it.

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purpledalmation · 15/03/2023 19:29

SoupDragon · 15/03/2023 19:29

I wouldn't assume the delivery woman put a note through the door, they don't always. Put your own note through if you don't want to take a big parcel over.

Yes, I could do this tomorrow.

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Itsmyturnnow1 · 15/03/2023 19:31

Just don’t take them in next time. It isn’t a big deal, leave in your hall until they realise it’s missing!

Magenta65 · 15/03/2023 19:31

Why are people afraid to say no?! I have horrible neighbours, I just say no I don’t take them in for them. Local drivers don’t bother asking me anymore, and I make sure to be home for any of my own deliveries or get the sent to a collection point

CalistoNoSolo · 15/03/2023 19:32

I don't understand the dilemma. You don't like them, don't take the parcels in for them. And who cares what time they get up. They could be doing shift work/on holiday/I'll.

Deathbyfluffy · 15/03/2023 19:33

Leave it outside for them - if a delivery driver asks me, I say sure but it'll have to stay outside as I'm decorating / cleaning / other excuse.
Up to them if they want to chance it being wet through, or try another house (not a fan of our neighbours either)

smellyflowers · 15/03/2023 19:37

They might have been in the middle of something wfh. Or out? Just coz their cars are there doesn't mean they aren't

But yeah don't take any more parcels in or it would keep happening.

2022again · 15/03/2023 19:37

Some delivery drivers can’t be bothered to a.wait or knock more than once and b. Never put a card through the door. We have one who constantly delivers to a neighbour and never even bothers to come to ours ( we have video door bell and always home!). Another time somebody had a parcel of mine for 2 weeks and I was contacting the seller to report missing.

Precipice · 15/03/2023 19:40

Two separate things here:

YANBU to leave the parcel until someone collects it. I've never taken a parcel over to its intended recipients. Intended recipients have always come to collect it. Maybe if it's been lingering for a while and nobody's come, on the basis that maybe nobody bothered to inform them of the misdelivery, but certainly I wouldn't go over on the day.

YABU to assume that because their cars were there that they were in the house and able to answer the door at that time.

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 15/03/2023 20:04

My suggestion would be to stop being so wet and stop taking in parcels for people you don't like.

You're just making your own life difficult for no reason

Maybebabyno2 · 15/03/2023 20:10

If I didn't like my neighbour's, I wouldn't take in their parcels. Same as when I'm going on holiday etc (don't want to risk leaving before seeing them) I would just say no.

As it is, I don't mind as my neighbours don't take the piss and my 2yo loves playing postman in the evening.

sageandrosemary · 15/03/2023 20:12

Stop taking them. My neighbour took the piss with parcels and used me like a depo. I refuse all of them now.

donttellmehesalive · 15/03/2023 20:18

Why assume they're lying on the sofa sniggering about the fact that you have a big parcel in your hall?

When it's far more plausible that they're ill, working or didn't get a note telling them where the parcel is.

thecatsmeows · 15/03/2023 20:19

I had my arse handed to me on here during lockdown, when a Yodel delivery person ignored the clear, written delivery instructions and tried to deliver a parcel to one of my neighbours in my block of flats - who quite rightly said 'no'. She came back later and proceeded to slag said neighbour off right in front of his door, he would have had to have been deaf not to have heard her! She didn't like it when I said that that I was glad he had refused, and that I don't take parcels in for neighbours and don't expect them to either...apparently that was 'wrong' and 'nasty' of me... so I'm somewhat amused to see some of the advice being given on here today...

It's right though. Just say 'no' in future. You don't have to have a reason.

Blip · 15/03/2023 20:21

Don't take in your neighbours parcels, they probs don't even want you to!
Say no to the delivery driver.

RamblingFar · 15/03/2023 20:22

I work live online. I can't stop just because they ring me, the intercom buzzes or someone knocks on the door. Tesco tried that earlier this week repeatedly, despite being way too early. If I'd stopped/paused presenting I would have had to refund all my clients and received a warning from my employers.

Your neighbours might have been working and unable to answer, have headphones in or be asleep and oblivious. On the other hand, you are allowed to refuse to take their parcels in for them. I wouldn't automatically assume that they know you have their parcel either. It depends if the delivery company let them know where it was.

mel787 · 15/03/2023 20:25

I have a neighbour like this. As I wfh I'm constantly taking parcels in. But this particular neighbour will not come and get it. So the last 2 parcels I lashed in the garage until nearly a week later them came for them.

SquirrelHash · 15/03/2023 20:32

RamblingFar · 15/03/2023 20:22

It winds me up when they come early and act like this.
Don't hammer on the door repeatedly and scare my daughter, you are not due for 45 minutes and you won't give her the delivery anyway because it has alcohol.

If you are going to park up outside my house so you can glare at me when I arrive home half an hour before the delivery is supposed to be, at least move the van so I can park in my own driveway.

clpsmum · 15/03/2023 20:33

more fool you for taking it in when you don't like them

openingbat · 15/03/2023 20:34

Bloody hell, it annoys me so much. Girl two doors down hasn't collected her parcel from days ago and I'm not bloody delivering it!

DESGUSTING · 15/03/2023 20:39

I do the same for my NDN.

They are in as wfh and don't answer to the door to any fucker.

Need to pick up my lady balls and say no but I always feel bad on the delivery driver esp when cold and wet 🙈

DESGUSTING · 15/03/2023 20:40

DESGUSTING · 15/03/2023 20:39

I do the same for my NDN.

They are in as wfh and don't answer to the door to any fucker.

Need to pick up my lady balls and say no but I always feel bad on the delivery driver esp when cold and wet 🙈

To add

Yes they wfh so obv times they can't answer, but this is any time anyone knocks on the door.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 15/03/2023 20:48

Wait.

Logicoutofthewindow · 15/03/2023 21:02

Don't take in their parcels.

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