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Couples arguing in Public.

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girlfriend44 · 15/03/2023 13:04

Couple arguing in cafe today sounds awful. Do nt they realise everyone else can hear?
Do you argue in public?

OP posts:
LlynTegid · 15/03/2023 17:10

No.

The only thing worse is hearing someone on a bus or train on the phone having an argument, where you cannot hear the other person.

Bepis · 15/03/2023 17:12

It really makes me cringe when couples do this. DH and I don't even argue at home so it's not something we do in public. We just don't argue full stop

Iwantmyoldnameback · 15/03/2023 17:13

So all the people who don't argue anywhere, who gives in?

Soontobemumof2x · 15/03/2023 17:17

I was in a very emotionally and mentally abusive relationship with an alcoholic and I just snapped one day outside Morrisons. Haven’t ever screamed like that in my life. I just had, had enough.

was mortified but also felt great 😂

Bepis · 15/03/2023 17:19

Iwantmyoldnameback · 15/03/2023 17:13

So all the people who don't argue anywhere, who gives in?

We don't disagree on things really so there's no need for anyone to back down.

Topseyt123 · 15/03/2023 17:21

Not in public for many years. We bicker at home occasionally and our DDs call us "Old married couple" when they hear. All is usually fairly humorous and the DDs laugh at us. They are all in their twenties now, so not small children.

InPraiseOfBacchus · 15/03/2023 18:00

nicetoseetgesunsout · 15/03/2023 16:18

A long time ago in the 90s and we're in our early 30s.
My friend once, when her husband (and my husband at the time) had stayed out clubbing all night and stayed at another friend's house, then were in the local pub the next day, she went to the pub as suspected they'd be there - and threw his Sunday roast at him. I applauded her! They all came home after that and she made him put together a climbing frame for their kids. He didn't do it again.....neither did mine. They've been together 30odd years now.

Physical assault isn't funny, cute, or worthy of applause.

As a woman, I hate it when female violence is minimised. It does women no favours to be seen as impotent and incapable of actual harm.

Kidsfortea · 15/03/2023 18:02

CremeEggThief · 15/03/2023 15:07

Personally no, but I view it as a bit of free entertainment when others do!

I live in an area where it is not uncommon for adults to physically attack each other in the street, even in front of kids, and nobody else would even think of getting involved or calling the police. Everyone just stands around and watches- some of us from inside the house and the more nosey from right beside these scraps!😆

So a situation as described in your OP would be very mild to me in terms of drama.

Thank goodness I'm not the only one!

Emmamoo89 · 15/03/2023 18:17

Nothing wrong with a bit of bickering. Me and my dp have argued in public. Maybe once or twice. Noting serious. We argue more in the house. Not often tho. I'd be worried if we stopped it all together tho.

BrokenWing · 16/03/2023 19:58

Iwantmyoldnameback · 15/03/2023 17:13

So all the people who don't argue anywhere, who gives in?

It is the same for those that do argue.

It varies. Sometimes one will care less than the other. Sometimes one is just being contrary. Sometimes we find an alternative. Sometimes one listens and accepts the others side (which isn't the same as giving in). Sometimes there is compromise.

All can be done as a discussion rather than an argument.

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