I left a high paying professional job after having my second baby.
Childcare for 2 at that point would have cost us just under £2000 a month. We could afford it, but with commuting costs (which for my role could be really high and relied on timely claiming and paying of expenses) it wouldn't have been adding much to our family pot.
Add to that, my going back to work would have put our family earnings over the threshold for tax free childcare and the 30 hours.
I didn't love my job enough for my family to be only a couple of hundred quid a month better off.
If I had loved my job I could have gone back to work.
Then covid hit about 2 months after I was due back to work. Both of us working from home in big jobs with a 3 and 1 year old and no childcare ... I think that would have broken both of us. It broke several of my friends and all of them were failing at home and at work. They all had to reduce working hours and reduce pay. Many of us were also still paying some kind of retainer fee for our nursery place.
Because I don't work we only get 15 hours for our youngest. When she's in full time school in September I'm going back to uni to retrain in a career that I can do around school hours.
I won't be earning the mega bucks I was BUT I will be adding about the same to the family pot once you discount the childcare costs.
If we'd been able to get 30 hours for our youngest sooner, I likely would have gone back to work sooner.