I think ex is being tricky

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My dd is considering coming back to live with my dh & I to be closer to her college in August & I have discussed it with her Father which he is more than happy with however…I mentioned to him that I will need to have maintenance as I cannot afford to support her alone & he offered me an amount which honestly seemed quite low given her outgoings but I didn’t question it. I have worked out what she’d be entitled to based on his his Ltd company turnover but he’s now resigned as director & his wife has been appointed as director. He did mention to me that because of specific issues he’s had with his health ( which I know about & aren’t dishonest) his wife would be taking over but I feel it’s very convenient that it’s been done now so if she runs his business he has no responsibility to pay anything. AIBU to assume there’s an ulterior motive?

Did you pay for her while she was living with him?

what is the agreement you had for child support? Was it to continue whilst she was in full time education?

it might be a case of take what is offered, but why can’t she get a part time job and contribute?

Will you get child benefit? Who gets it at the moment? How much are you asking for and what’s he offering?

He might be being “tricky” and if you don’t think he’s offering you enough to have her back then don’t. But surely you’d be pleased she’ll be living with you again, even if she won’t be coming with a chunky wad of cash, and if you know he’s genuinely ill it doesn’t sound like he’s intentionally trying to screw anyone over.

Did you pay towards your DD costs when she was living with him? Perhaps you could agree to the same amount in return

Well you will be saving the money, you gave him when he lived with her.

plus child benefit. That should help.

How old is she?

LTD company turnover isn't what you can base calculations on - that's not his wage, it's very different.

Have you been paying maintenance whilst she's been with him? Perhaps a similar amount to that would work.