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To ask DC for a financial contribution?

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ThatMam · 14/03/2023 19:12

and if so how much?

DC is 20 and still lives at home.
They finish college in July, I have not been taking money while they were at college up to now as I received tax credits for them still which have now stopped and I wanted them financially not to have to worry at college.

They currently receive almost £400 a month PIP which will rise shortly but it obviously for disability costs.
Between £200 and £450 a month wage depending on hours which will also rise as they will be doing more hours when college finishes.
They also receive £80 a month from a Grandparent

At the moment they pay nothing, I am paying for all household costs, all food, toiletries and all that kind of thing, we both buy clothes, i.e if I see something nice and I have the money I will buy it them, if they want something they will get it.

They do pay for their own lunches while at work, their phone top up, they have a bus pass so no transport costs, they pay wifi for the household because I was not bothered about having it (data on phone was fine for me) and they were.

Aibu to ask for some kind of contribution when they finish college?
How much do I take if so with varying wages?!

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ThatMam · 14/03/2023 20:42

Orangesandlemons77 · 14/03/2023 20:26

I think you may also get a carer's element on UC. I would check it all out.

Thank you, I am going to look into this!
I receive working tax credits still currently.

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Orangesandlemons77 · 14/03/2023 21:06

ThatMam · 14/03/2023 20:42

Thank you, I am going to look into this!
I receive working tax credits still currently.

I think with a disabled adult child you may qualify, best wishes

Pinkbananas01 · 14/03/2023 21:11

DS 1 at uni, lives at home. Don't charge him rent but also don't buy him anything apart from food when he eats with us - he spets own clothes, toiletries, transport, lunches, social life etc . He has student loan & is learning to manage his budget. He knows once he starts working he will need to pay something to us if still living here then (we may save it for a deposit for him although he doesn't know this)

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