PND

[Starryeyed543]

I have been suffering with PND for a while now and finally found the courage to seek professional help after starting to feel like I may be a risk to myself. I confided in my DH last nigh that I was seriously struggling and felt like I might hurt myself and was going to seek help. He told me I have an attitude problem and I am a horrible person. Since then he's barely spoken to me basically acts like I'm not even there and just speaks to my daughter. I actually feel horrendous I know I've not been the best version of myself just now snappy and miserable but I am struggling and lonely from being home alone with a baby for 12+ hours a day. Is it too much to ask for some compassion in my time of need?

YABU - you've obviously being a bitch and deserve to be treated like this
YANBU - you don't deserve to have love withheld from you like this

Your partner is not ONLY being WHOLLY UNREASONABLE: if this were Reddit, he would also be the a**hole!

You have been brave and shown such great love for your child in reaching out for hell. If you don't feel safe, please safe the baby and ask your parents/a close friend to collect you.

If there is anything I can do, let me know.

You are SO brave, darling.

You are not only being perfectly reasonable requesting some compassion at one of the hardest times in your life; I would argue that is the absolute bare minimum that, not only your partner, but the father of your baby should be providing you. Asking that of him is so far from unreasonable it's on Pluto: and that's not even a planet anymore.

He sounds like an absolute bellend.

Well done on asking for help. That's a huge first step.

Thank you he always makes me doubt myself like I am terrible person 😔

He sounds awful OP. Don’t doubt yourself. Massive first step done.. proud of you for seeking help. PND is horrible but you can and will get through it. Sending you a handhold and support xx

That’s awful, I’m sorry OP. You don’t deserve that.

I had PND and anxiety: it’s horrific. You have my sympathy, and I want you to know you are not alone. It does not mean you don’t love your baby.

Good luck with the GP- should they dismiss your concerns go to another one until you get help. My nice but useless GP thought I was just exhausted! Fortunately I had work private medical - but not available to all, I know. A year on sertraline and 10 weeks of CBT plus some time off work helped a lot. Please keep going until you get the help you need.

Don’t let your DH bully you: you’ve done nothing wrong, you’re just ill- if he continues being unpleasant then when you’re recovered give your relationship with him a cold hard appraisal.

Thank you I have been lucky enough to be put in touch straight with the mental health nurse so hopefully in good hands.

I think silent treatment is a major trigger for me from my childhood as well living with my mum and step dad and neither of them spoke or acknowledged my existence for 3 months before I finally moved out at 16. He knows I struggle with that